I've always had a very difficult relationship with MIL, always treading on eggshells around her as the smallest thing can set her off. She is constantly playing favourites between me and BILs partners, seems she can never like both of us at the same time, and will always try to play us off against each other, it worked with his ex and made things hell but luckily his current girlfriend has become a very close friend so we just ignore it mostly. For some reason she has decided my family(and BILs girlfriends too) are evil people trying to take over her role as parent, really not the case! When me and DP first got together she would be furious just at the thought of him spending time with family, he wasn't even allowed to come to my 18th birthday party. You can imagine the arguments that followed when we moved into a house closer to my mum (in the newer, quieter part of town so houses were nicer, it actually had nothing to do with being closer to my parents!) Despite this we always seem to spend more time with her.
I think because of how she is I've let her walk all over me and just given her what she wanted to avoid arguments, once she's started she can go on for a very long time.
My younger brother is going travelling at the end of this week for a year so on Friday we went out for dinner with my mum and her family and tonight we are supposed to be going out for dinner with my dad. MIL texted last night inviting us over for dinner, DP told her we couldn't as we're going for a meal for my brother. She then called him swearing and shouting about how she's doing this dinner especially for him as he told her he hasn't had a proper home cooked roast for ages (we usually just go to the carvery). DP just said to her he is sorry but we can't today maybe next weekend and ended the call.
So today I get a call from my dad asking if I want him to pick me up so I don't have to drive and can have a drink and he asks me what is wrong with DP as he texted my brother to tell him he won't be able to make tonight, he was at work so I had no idea he had texted so I called him. He decided he's going to go for dinner at MILs, I was so angry I just hung up before I said something I regretted. He then texted me saying "If you're going to be like this I won't bother. Im just trying to make our life easier so mum won't moan"!!!!!!
It's such a minor thing but I honestly am just at the end and it has upset me so much. I just don't know what to do now because I am so angry but no one seems to understand why. I honestly feel like crying, I will always be second best to MIL because she throws a better tantrum, it shouldn't have to be a competition.
Sorry it's long and thank you for letting me vent.
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Don't know what to do about MIL and DP!
Omgkittiess · 26/02/2017 18:56
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