I met my Partner 7 years ago. We have been together ever since and have 2 children.
He cheated on me while I was pregnant and I found out just after our son was born. He assured me it was a dalliance because he was lonely. (Works away during the week)
Now we are 7 years in and he works away during the week. Me and the kids have a great routine with things and when he comes home at the weekend we all have a lovely time. He provides very very well for us and I am lucky to be able to stay at home with the children.
When we first got together he told me that his boss who also works away during the week had an arrangement with his wife were he could live like a single man during the week and play the husband at weekend and in return the wife and kids want for nothing.
Although I found nothing suspisious and I know he works long hours when away I can't get that out of my head. Im worried he thinks that's an ok set up and some nights during the week when I'm alone I wonder is he with someone else.
I'm a being silly? How do I deal with these feelings? I just don't know what to say to him about it without starting a holy row.
We are not married. In fact he's still married to his wife. They have been separated for 10 years and have a legal separation in place. I feel like I gave up my job so we could have children. He never had them before. We live in my home town so I have my "friends" round me but couldn't discuss this with any of them. They are SAHM too and think I'm like them and my life is rickety boo too.
Start stashing away money as soon as you can. Make plans for getting back to work. You need to protect yourself, his wife already has a claim on his assets. He hasn't got divorced so that you can't insist on getting married, his actions show that he is actively trying to dodge financial responsibility for you in the long term. He'll fund you staying at home to look after his children while you do that on his terms. Whose name is your home in?
You need to set yourself up so you have a life if he walks or if he is being unfaithful - get yourself either retrained or experienced if your old career isn't possible I hope this isn't the situation his boss seems to be relishing the dirty masogenistic twat!