I hate this phrase.
I kind if get the whole you can't control other people but you can control how you react thing.
But this seems a step further?
You are choosing to let them wind you up
You are choosing to let them upset you
You are choosing to feel that way
I feel like it dismisses my feelings, almost invalidates them? Struggling to articulate why it upsets me. When I said that I was told it wasn't invalidating my feelings?
It was always about small things, but niggled. And always to me.
It was then said to dc1 (ASD) last night (I wasn't home ). Dc got upset. I told dh (later when he was recounting) that dc was upset as he had invalidated his feelings on the situation. Dh said not.
This morning I was annoyed at dc1 being nasty to dc2. Dc 1 retaliated with dc2 was choosing to be upset about it, and I was choosing to be annoyed about it.
It feels like a stepping stone to abuse? To do what you want and discount the fall out as the person is 'choosing' to feel bad?
I can't quite articulate. But it is undermining me telling off Dc for being quite nasty to each other :(
Or am I over reacting?
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You are choosing to feel that way
NotMyChoiceTo · 25/02/2017 13:37
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