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Do any of you take a little break away alone?

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Mrstumbletap Sat 25-Feb-17 11:08:30

So I love the idea of travelling alone, I love travelling with DH and DS too but the independence of travelling on my own is something that I have never done and would love to.

In a few weeks I am thinking of going away sat-tues somewhere in Europe, it's a little spa relaxing place that looks beautiful and is a bargain.

DH has the week off work anyway so will be with DS, and he is fine with me going, DH has a golf weekend booked in June too so said it's just the same as that really.

But..... I have never done it, have a load of mum guilt on my shoulders, and think people will think it's strange eg friends/colleagues when I say I am going away with just me.

Have any of you had a little break on your own? Travel alone? Like your own company sometimes? Was it worth it?

Shockers Sat 25-Feb-17 11:11:44

I travel alone. We also travel as a family and sometimes I take just one (not always the same one!) of the children for a break too.

I love my own company!

PollytheDolly Sat 25-Feb-17 11:14:32

Good for you!!! Enjoy your travels and don't feel guilty.

KellyBoo800 Sat 25-Feb-17 11:15:35

I haven't but would love to. I love my own company, I am a delight!

I hope people wouldn't judge you for this and I don't think you should feel guilty. You are your own person, not just a mum, and deserve something just for you.

Crispsheets Sat 25-Feb-17 11:17:19

Yes I did..A couple of four day breaks alone each year, usually to a holistic spa. I needed it.
I love my own company, and my ex did the same.

jeaux90 Sat 25-Feb-17 11:35:38

I travel alone for work and love it. Also done it on my own just for a break. I'm a single mum so I leave the dd with my live in nanny and I don't feel guilty at all. I have lovely family holidays with my dd too.

I see it as part of my mental well being and it lets you get back to you, your identity just as you, not as a partner or mum.

I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time and I'm glad to hear your DP is supportive. X

happypoobum Sat 25-Feb-17 11:44:55

Oh God yes just do it!

I regularly go away for work and also book holidays away for myself.

I spent a whole week alone in Italy once - it was pure heaven. You know it is just the same as DH going for his golf weekend.

Have a lovely time. wine

laurzj82 Sat 25-Feb-17 12:01:47

Yes I've done this a couple of times since having DD. Bliss! Enjoy!

ASqueakingInTheShrubbery Sat 25-Feb-17 12:09:26

I've done it. A couple of times for work, where it would be possible to travel up in the morning, but the peak train fare is more expensive than a cheap B&B and an off peak ticket, and once just for a weekend of escape. It was wonderful. I read books, ate when and what I wanted, pottered round shops, and slept peacefully in the knowledge that no small people would call for me in the night. I'm planning to do it again this year. DH is paying for it for my birthday.

GotPanache Sat 25-Feb-17 12:31:07

Do it, it sounds lovely! I've not travelled alone since marriage/kids but I did go to Barcelona by myself when I was single and fed up of not having a partner to go on holiday with. I thought it might be a bit weird but it was brilliant!

WaitedForGodot Sat 25-Feb-17 13:25:50

Have gone to the US alone three times since getting married. It's been great each time, would highly recommend taking some time to holiday alone if you can.

SandyY2K Sat 25-Feb-17 13:47:50

Yes. I've done it. Not gone away on my own, but without DH and DC. I usually go with my sisters or on a girl's spa weekend away.

I'm not one to go just by myself though.

It's definitely worth it and so relaxing and enjoyable.

CakeUpWall Sat 25-Feb-17 13:53:32

I've done it a few times and it's lovely. When life is hectic, a few days of not having to be permanently on call/thinking what to do for dinner/whatever is wonderful. I usually go to a quiet hotel/guesthouse where I can read, sleep, eat supper in my pyjamas in my room, and only go out if & when I so choose. Ooh, fancying it right now.

Coulibri Sat 25-Feb-17 14:00:44

Yes, in fact I'm doing it next weekend.

BackforGood Sat 25-Feb-17 14:38:49

If it is the 'leaving dc' part of the experience, then, yes, I've adesure I've done that a lot over the years, but, personally I'm a bit of a people person so have tended to go and have a weekend away with friends rathr than going anywhere completely on my own.

Gah81 Sat 25-Feb-17 14:43:50

Do it! I do this at least once a year. Plenty of friends, lovely DP but there is NOTHING as relaxing as being able to do what you want, when you want. Take lots of books with you.

And don't be worried you'll get funny looks - people are so used to seeing women travel and eat by themselves that it really isn't an issue as much as it used to be even 5 years ago smile

(For background, I am an ENFJ and always around people but I always feel so refreshed after going away by myself)

happypoobum Sat 25-Feb-17 15:48:43

@Gah81 that's really funny - I am also ENFJ and only 2% of the population are. I am just the same, spend a lot of time with people but love being away by myself. Great opportunity for a recharge.

Are you worried what your family/friends will say OP? If they are negative they are probably just jealous.

Imnotacelebgetmeouttahere Sat 25-Feb-17 15:52:40

I'm going away this week for 4 nights and leaving DH with the 4 kids blush

I've had quite a few hmm faces and comments " oh I couldn't possibly leave mine" ... that's fine .. I didn't ask you too grin

3 of ours have SN and after 12years I'm ready for a break - one dc is unlikely to ever live independently and so it's not like I can even wait till they all leave home.

So I've dropped the guilt and packed the bag and cannot wait!

Enjoy!

Mrstumbletap Sat 25-Feb-17 17:34:40

Oh my god I love you all, I was so ready for a flaming for being a selfish cow!

I am very happy in my own company and so glad that doesn't make me strange. If I go I can relax, read, sleep, maybe swim (if it's warm enough there) eat in the cute little restaurant etc. It's adults only and looks really quiet, has a spa and just looks very chilled.

I don't know one person in real life that has ever taken a little break on their own, so you lot are great. Even my DH said "don't you want to ask someone to go with you?" I said "I would actually just like to have a few days, just me". He did laugh and said he would get bored of his own company. But I think it will be great.

Imnotacelebgetmeouttahere Sat 25-Feb-17 17:47:52

Mmmm sleep grin that's what I'm most looking forward too

Mrstumbletap Sat 25-Feb-17 18:05:18

I just googled ENFJ and there was the personality test, I completed it and I came out as ENFJ. I had never even heard of it before.

It is very true too, my job is full on, with lots of people and I lead quite a large team, my head and inbox can be buzzing at the end of the week, the idea of turning off technology sounds bliss.

BIWI Sat 25-Feb-17 18:23:19

I have been away a couple of times without DH - both times because he couldn't take time off (he's a contractor, paid on a daily basis). The first time I went on my own to the Caribbean, which was absolutely fantastic. I went to a hotel I've been to before, so I knew what the set up was, and I had 5 days of just lying in the sun, reading my book and enjoying either limitless MNetting, or watching crappy US television!

This year I went to visit family in Australia. It was a real shame that DH couldn't come, but I had a really great time.

He regularly has weekends or weeks away on golfing holidays, and so it would be truly odd if he objected to me being away.

nigelforgotthepassword Sat 25-Feb-17 18:28:29

Do it! It's 4 days out of your and DC's life.That's nothing in the scheme of things-it's unlikely they will even remember you going- but it will be very worth it to you.

welshmist Sat 25-Feb-17 18:34:12

Conversation in our house,

Me - let`s go for a few days break to Lisbon (somewhere I really want to go)
Him - Porto is much better I went there once on a school trip (half a century ago)
Me - But I would like to go to Lisbon really.
Him - silence.

So we stayed home.....

The moral of this story is just go.......

cuirderussie Sat 25-Feb-17 18:34:19

Do it! smile Every year my dh and I get a little alone-time break each, usually just two days but we love it! Last year he went to London to mooch round museums and a few weeks later I went to a small coastal town and just read and slept. It's totally fine.

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