Hi,
After several years on my own with 2 young children I opted for a dating and met someone who I fell totally in love with.
We've been together for about 5 years but during that time he's gone from changing about offering us living together and having another child (I'm now 45 so has now passed) to a reasonable settled routine that suits him and his situation with kids. No more mention of moving in together etc.
He lied to me very early on the relationship which I discovered....there have probably been many more occasions and I know of a few...nothing major as far as I know but just small things generally.
Recently I've guessed that he hasn't completed his uni course...its all bizarre and I get that he feels embarrassed etc but honesty has to happen otherwise the lie just becomes bigger.
I've asked occasionally to be met with just a defensive answer.
Anyway recently I mentioned that I needed him to contribute to some food....he pays for nothing when here (half of a month). His answer was is it his fault that I am in the red?
Since then he has been very off and last weekend he was very angry and eventually stormed off last Sunday....I;ve never really heard from him since. He sent a few texts saying he was on a downer and didn't like dragging me down and that I was a good person and he wasn't.
Thing is I would have stood by him through whatever.
Since leaving he has totally blanked me and its like he doesn't exist.
This is awful.... did he not feel anything for me at all? Have I just been used?
What a waste of my life though for nothing.
I am such a bad judgement of character...thought I was making a good new choice with him!!
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tich31 · 24/02/2017 23:54
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