Dh is unhappy. He is currently working 60 odd hours a week. We have significant cc debt, which isn't unmanageable but he wants it gone quickly.
I have taken over all the household stuff he used to do, putting the bins out, bedtime for the youngest, he doesn't do any washing or cleaning now.
I have an issue with alcohol and I'm in treatment, at one point I was drinking two bottles of wine most nights. With therapy I've got that down to three bottles a week but I need to stop completely.
I have significant MH issues (Bipolar, bpd and anxiety) which means I am tired a lot of the time and have no motivation and struggle at times to leave the house. The flip side is mad spending binges (hence the debt) among other things.
Dh is under so much pressure and I'm afraid he's going to crack. I try to do as much as possible for him, cooking his favourites, regular sex and affection, making sure he has plenty of free time (he goes out at least three evenings a week to do various hobbies).
I need to do better. I need to not spend any money (he literally spends nothing on himself, won't even buy a book or cd). I need to be a better housewife, all the kids are at school and I have no excuse really not to have a pristine house.
The focus has been on my needs for such a long time and I need to flip it and make him feel cherished. I have no idea how though, I'm a mess.
I'm terrified he's going to get to the end of his rope and bail out.
Please help.
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EssieTregowan · 24/02/2017 10:55
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