Separated from STBXH 9 months ago - no huge crisis just a gradual, sad grinding to a halt over about three years. Still very traumatic, telling the DCs (7 and 9), moving to new living arrangements and all the other shit that goes along with.
In the last 9 months I have gone a bit off the rails, partly as a reaction to the trauma of the split and partly because of the sense of release. I fell deeply in love with someone completely unavailable which inevitably ended in heartbreak and then had a short but passionate fling with someone else. I have got a mad new hobby, which has brought a lot of great new friends with it - started revisiting the things I loved when I was younger and recently tried internet dating (it was a disaster).
But the thing that I have just realised in the last couple of days is that none of this stuff and nobody else is going to rescue me from dealing with the day-to-day business of being me. I think I thought that I could catapult myself into a new life just by running hard enough at it. I'm 38 and have been with STBXH 16 years. I've never tried to be an adult on my own. I get that I've got to do it, I just don't know how.
Has anyone else had this feeling? How do you start working out who you are at a sensible pace and without behaving like a 16 year old on speed?
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Explain to me how to be an adult please...
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HalfInLoveWithElizabeth · 23/02/2017 20:45
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