I'm currently grieving after the death of a very close family member who was very special to me. DH has been somewhat distant and emotional unavailable. I'm currently receiving bereavement counselling and recently highlighted to my counsellor that I hadn't felt it safe to grieve around DH. I've felt an expectation to continue as normal.
As a result, I've tried to unravel this further and I've concluded that I'm being more needy than usual and feeling more grateful for my DH and DCS,wanting my family close. But surely this is normal and healthy?
I explained this to DH after an honest discussion and asked if this was pushing him away. He responded that he much prefers it when I "play more hard to get."
what?
Are all men like this? Am I not allowed to be vulnerable around my husband during a time of grief? I have spoken to my friend about this who explains that DH clearly doesn't "do feelings" so to give him a bit of time and space. I usually rate her advice highly, but I'm not sure about this? Surely DH should be meeting my emotional needs right now, or am I expecting too much?
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Husband wants me to play harder to get?
banoffeebob · 23/02/2017 09:15
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