Hi there, hoping someone has some experience to help me understand why I'm feeling and behaving like I am. Bit nervous about posting so apologies if anything is incomprehensible.
I started seeing a counsellor a few weeks ago as I'd reached a point where I couldn't really function. My anxiety (general) was out of control and I felt paralysed to the point I couldn't do anything other than cry. I was also snapping at my husband for anything and everything and it was driving a wedge between us.
So my counsellor has been helping and has encouraged me to discuss my history and childhood. She thinks I may be displacing anger I feel towards my mum onto my husband and that my upbringing is contributing towards my anxiety.
As a bit of background, I have a (what I thought) pretty good relationship with my parents. They have their faults but I choose to spend time with them and they are great parents to me and grandparents to our daughter. I do remember my mum being quite different when I was younger. Everything had to be clean, tidy and perfect and I was scared to put something in the wrong place etc. I remember her being very stressed and anxious herself and shouting and stressing a lot of the time. She was a sahm so I spent a lot of time with her. I developed anorexia at university which I 'recovered' from in a year or so but which I think I still have some scars from. I'm not sure if this is related.
Anyway, I've been thinking a lot about this and do think the anger I feel towards my husband is not really meant for him, but could it really be something to do with my childhood? I'm quite confused and would appreciate any advice.
Thanks in advance.
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Notsure999 · 22/02/2017 21:32
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