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Drunk confessions of sorts

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Emilyx · 20/02/2017 20:10

Hi

This is really silly but there is a guy I know well and anytime we are out for drinks he makes comments that always make me think wtf after he has had a few!

One night he confessed his love for me, others he has said that I broke his heart, little comments like I ruined his life and he told another friend how great I am and that he has a soft spot for me but would never do anything about it for various reasons.

This is only ever said when alcohol is involved. It can be quite awkward after these nights as we are co workers but nothing is ever said!

He isn't single so of course nothing would ever happen between us but it just kind of makes me wonder, do you think people just talk crap when they are drunk or do true feelings come out when drunk?

I just don't want it to get too awkward anymore and would love to just laugh it off as I have been doing but it's been so many times now that it's making me think more and a little uncomfortable.

I think he's lovely and we get on so we'll but I would never get involved with someone's man so please don't think that's why I'm asking!
He talks about his girlfriend to me all the time and seems very much in love with her.

I'm just curious as to what people's opinions are on these drunken words? Sorry if this doesn't make too much sense!

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Bones2017 · 20/02/2017 20:21

If he's not single, shut him down until he is OP. X

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justpeachy74 · 20/02/2017 20:27

No point going there OP.

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Holly3434 · 20/02/2017 20:44

He's drunk, so hardly in a good frame of mind to declare his love for you. Forget it and ignore these comments

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Whocansay · 20/02/2017 20:56

He wants a shag and is trying to see if you're up for it.

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HeddaGarbled · 20/02/2017 21:05

He's the sort of man who would be unfaithful to his wife/girlfriend on a drunk night out and would blame it on the drink if he got found out. He fancies you but if you close him right down (which you should) he'll move on to someone else he thinks he stands a chance with.

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Emilyx · 20/02/2017 21:15

Interesting points, thanks guys.
Was thinking no one would reply as I might come off bad here but that's not what this is about for me, I wanted others opinions/advice as I said I don't feel comfortable with it. Thought it was harmless flirting at first but it's crossed the line.

I always thought he was a good guy, it's obvious he makes sure never to be alone with me etc on nights out but still he shouldn't be saying any of it at all. He has been saying he'd love for me (and other friends) to meet his girlfriend and of course I don't have a problem with that but I think would feel a little awkward so kinda dreading that!
Probably just drunken messiness that I should not put any thought into anymore!

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