Cutting a v long story short. Left H after 14 years. 7yr old ds and 9 month old dd.
Just before we found out I was pg, caught him texting a woman he met on night out. Msgs ended when she asked to meet up so obviously he got cold feet. A few days after found out I was pg, he was trying to make it up to me so decided to forgive and move on.
After this, treated me like shit the whole pg, very dismissive and cold, etc., angry with me for no reason, actually quite cruel, I was working full time, sorting childcare/school runs, paying majority of household expenses, etc.
Then told me that when the baby is born I'm not to bother him with the kids and he'll be there if he can but the responsibility lies with me. Secretive with his phone. Got his password and saw that he had msg'd 2 women on Facebook.
I thought fuck all that, I do everything anyway so baby was 8 weeks old I moved out with the kids.
Between me finding somewhere to live and now, he's constantly been saying he wants us back together, he's realising his mistakes (shit with money, only involved with us on his terms, etc.) but I'm not going back.
Problem is, he's not having the kids. We agreed on 2 overnights per week for eldest and 1 for baby while she's harder work but he hasn't done it. He'll take the eldest once per week but has never had the baby.
I am struggling. Baby is hard work, I haven't slept a full night since she was born, he keeps saying he will in future but it's too hard now. He's a selfish bastard - too hard for him but he's happy to let me do it day in day out.
I don't know why I'm posting, need to vent really. I go back to work in 2 weeks, full time and I somehow need to manage it all.
Childcare all sorted for me working, house is all up together and I'm pretty organised, but fuck, I am so worn out!
The only benefit is that at least I'm worn out but not having to deal with his bs on top of it, in the 8 weeks I was home with newborn he didn't lift a finger then either, slept in the other room because the baby was waking him up!
I'm so fed up. Don't have anyone local that can take the baby for a night. How have others got through it????
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Left him now won't see kids
Fig678 · 20/02/2017 09:43
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