I've been dating/seeing a man for almost 11 weeks now. We met through work but we don't work together and our meeting was a complete fluke.
We see each other once/twice a week (we alternate between staying over at his or my place), text every day and speak on the phone a couple of times a week. We spent Valentine's together.
He seems lovely, and kind. We never stop chatting and laughing when we are together and the sex is amazing (sorry it tmi). I really like him.
However, I've never done this whole dating thing and I'm unsure on how to move it forward. On our first date he said he wanted to take it slow, which is fine, I have a ds (who I have no intention of rushing them meeting or anything) and he has commitments so going slow was good. But how slow is slow? At what point should it move into a relationship. I feel ready to make that step but don't want to rush it scare him. We've agreed we arent seeing anyone else and he told me he considered us more then dating but what is that?
Also, as not to drip feed, he has 2 hobbies that he goes to pretty much every evening. One is a set time and day, which he attends ever week
But the other is flexible but he attends with a friend . Every time we arrange to meet in the week, which means he can't attend or will have to alter the time he always says 'I'll have to check with friend to make sure that's ok'. It's always 'been ok' and we've never not met but still, it raises slight alarm bells with me however I know after 2/3 months he can't be expected to change his whole life for me, and I obviously don't mind him doing his hobbies, but I do like spending an evening with him in the week.
Sorry that was really long but I think I feel like I'm coming to a crossroads, we have such a good time and I don't want to do anything to jepordise it but at the same time, I need to know that I'm not wasting my time.
What do you think?
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Am I wasting my time?
GodfreyAndJane · 20/02/2017 06:41
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