So after a bit of advice and also for a bit of a vent! If I don't post here I am going to say something to my ex that I will regret in the morning.
I posted on here a couple of months ago about my situation. Ex-boyfriend of 15 years sleeps with a coworker from his office, gets her pregnant after the first/2nd time they sleep together, dumps me and now they are together and baby is due in July. We still have to sell our house so I still need to be in contact with him for that reason.
A couple of weeks ago I told him that for my own healing process I needed to start to forgive those idiots for what they did to me. Bearing in mind he only slept with her 4 months ago it is all still very raw. He messaged me back saying he told his new girlfriend and she opened up to him how much this whole situation has been eating away at her. He even said he knew she had been affected by it but didn't know how much it had affected her. She is constantly worrying about how I am doing and hopes I will be ok. I was so amazed that he told me that. They both singlehandedly turned my life upside down for their own selfish gains! I honestly wish them luck and have no ill-feeling towards them but I don't need to know that shit!
Since then I have made a real effort to keep everything between my ex and I strictly about the house. I saw him briefly yesterday (Sunday) and didn't say anything about anything really. Cut to about an hour ago. He sent me a message saying that he gets the impression I am distancing myself from him. And then wishes me happy birthday for today. That's pleasant enough but the fact that he sent the message so close after midnight when I know he is at her house with her makes me so uneasy. I hate that he gets me so wound up, I am never like this!
He asked me last week to have lunch with him today, we all work in the same company. I said I was busy so then asked if we could hang out because it "would be nice to spend time" with me on my birthday.
That is mad, right? He cannot do what he did to me and then still want to spend time with me. Argh!
Sorry for ranting and thank you to anyone who read through all of the above!
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Agatha44 · 20/02/2017 01:08
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