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Anyone else experiencing being left out after having children.

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Hopethisoneisnottaken Mon 20-Feb-17 00:24:07

had baby 6 mnths ago and at family gatherings keep coming across news that my cousin and her husband have been frequently meeting up with my bro and his mrs. we all live in same area around 10-15 min drive... i am on mat leave and wud've liked to be invited out... my bro especially knows this as i pointed out during my first mat leave. they openly talk bout it so don't think it is intentional. i asked my bro bout not inviting me and he goes he was thinking bout my children and cares for them... so what he doesnt want their mum to hav a good time once in while?

i asked my cousin and feel like a right old clingy and desperate person. she said it was last minute plans. plus she told her mum who dislikes me anyways and told my bro bout how i was sending a text like that to my cuz when they had given me a roof over my head when i first came to the country.

problem is now that i know this i cant be bothered anymore and even if they invite me to family gatherings i make excuses not to go....i feel quite offended that my own cousin did not want to hang out with me.

CaoNiMa Mon 20-Feb-17 07:15:11

It sounds harsh, and I'm sure you're lovely, but maybe your cousin just doesn't like hanging out with you as much as your bro. Perhaps they just click more, socially. Just because you're all related, nobody really has any obligation to socialise widely outside of the family.

Concentrate on your other friends, who like you for who you are, not family obligation.

FritzDonovan Mon 20-Feb-17 08:07:43

Were they thinking you would have baby with you? Because that's not relaxing for anyone....

Hopethisoneisnottaken Mon 20-Feb-17 20:53:17

thanks cao and fritz... yes i think they did think i wud lug two kids along with me. fair enough they wanted to have kids free night out all those time but think once in a while they cud do something child friendly...ike maybe suggesting to meet up at mine and get a takeaway. but yes i am coming to terms with fact that they dont like to hang out with me much inspite of the reasons they gave. just sucks but i am sure i will get over it. oh by the way i have no friends 😔

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