I've spoken on here before about my abusive exH. I've had some concerns for a while about his care of our DCs when they are with him, and have been to a solicitor about it in the past (issues of neglect) but he doesn't really pay much attention. The next step would be to apply to the court for supervised contact, but I really want to speak to someone first to talk through the things I'm unhappy about. Does anyone have any experience of this? Apart from a solicitor, I don't know who to go to go get impartial advice.
It's cumulative stuff, inappropriate things here and there with each incident on their own probably not sounding like much, but I worry about the way they're adding up. The latest incident happened when DCs came back from their last contact weekend, and DS (6) asked me if I'd ever been to a strip club. I asked him what he meant, and he said "a strip club like Rhino". I asked him where he'd heard about this and what he knew about it, and he said his exH and gf had told him about what happens there, that ladies dance and take their clothes off, and that they'd both been to see it. Later on that evening he was clearing out his pockets of pokemon cards and asked me "what does this mean?", handing me a card he'd picked up for escort services. I asked him where he'd got it and if his dad knew he'd picked it up, and he said his dad knew and said he could keep it. I did contact exH about it but of course just got a mouthful.
Argh. Am probably being unreasonable but I just want to talk to someone about it all.
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Greypaw · 19/02/2017 20:52
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