I'm looking for advice.
My DF who is the loveliest person I know has been with her dp for many years. They have a young dc.
Her dp has isolated her from some of her friends calling them names/ creating drama and fall outs. He forbids me from visiting my df because I didn't fall in to line with one of his plans - unforgivable apparently, he's fallen out with her parents and is punishing about her visiting them. He has also fallen out with his entire family.
He has hit her in the past- once that I know of, he calls her names, he rages if she doesn't do as he wants. He makes threats such as, 'don't threaten me with leaving...you'll see what will happen of you do.' There is a general air of threat. She is on anti depressants and has no self-esteem.
This has been going on for years and yet with each new hiatus she will say, 'this is new..he was never like this before.' I remind her of his previous behaviour and she will minimise and say others might have provoked him etc.
Her mum has said to her that she thinks she is in an abusive relationship and now she won't confide in her as she says her dm is over dramatising the situation.
I'm really worried about her and want to know what I can do beyond listening and holding up a mirror to say this isn't ok. I don't think she'll leave - she has said she thinks they are broken, that perhaps she should leave but then talks about how sad that makes her feel.
I had thought of speaking to her mum to say I share her worries but I think she'd feel betrayed by this and I might risk loosing her confidence.
What can I do? what does she need from me?
Thanks to anyone who might be able to advice.
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SomethingSimple · 19/02/2017 19:55
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