So, my dh and i have been together 15 years, married 3 and have one dc who is 18m and one due in a few weeks.
Our relationship has gone down the pan and im constantly being told im useless, lazy, slovenly, a cunt, a bitch etc (all in front of our dc which breaks my heart as i grew up in a broken home and can see where this needs to go 😢). Should have seen it coming. He was abusive verbally and physically earlier in our relationship then stopped after i reported him to the police for hitting me. Things went really good, we got married and the pregnant and it started going shit. It climbed back up and we got pregnant again. Now i feel unloved, trapped and guilty for bringing a child and another on way into such a shit environment.
So, im currently heavily pregnant, not working as i was made redundant from my old job whilst on mat leave with dc1.
I have no savings, my 'dh' controls our joint bank accounts and i get a small weekly allowance.
Today i was told that all we have between us now is our dc (ignoring that im heavily pregnany with dc2) and that he is 'done' and doesnt care for me anymore.
He does this so routinely lately that i can barely feel anything anymore. Obviously im upset but i am trying to just think about the baby im carrying and avoiding the stress.
We own a house jointly. I have no family support at all and no close friends that i could rely on to help me.
In the current absence of financial independence and any help, my current plan is to stick it out until dc2 is born. Get back into a good job by the time they turn 6 months then leave - knowing i can pay for childcare etc and gef a place of my own when the house is sold. I dont want to stay in this house as my inlaws are all on the doorstep and hate me (because actually, they arent nice people!)
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Areasonablegal · 19/02/2017 13:27
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