He sounds like a controlling abusive cunt to be honest. I've been out with loads of men in my time who if shown a photo of "cold" would say " nahhh" to, but once met, their other qualities shine through and make them more attractive which then affects how you feel about them as a whole. The idea of marrying someone to whom you'd be prepared to say something so callous is just awful.
Those are the worst type of control freak jerks. In fact, do you ever notice when someone loves someone for them, they both become even more beautiful/good looking? So it's bs that people are just unattractive all the time. I was a tomboy just before my DH and then I just blossomed when we fell in love. I'm still not the beauty of a group, but I feel beautiful because my DH and I love each other for the person as a whole.
This happened after they married he never said anything before, this is what I don't understand why he'd marry her knowing. I can't do anything but listen to her at the moment as she's not willing to leave
My ex did this - but with a bit more subtlety than your friends husband. Told me he didn't find me physically attractive but that was ok because he loved me Not helped by the fact that he was really vain and thought that he was gods gift.
The main point to take from my post is the word ex. I might not be the most beautiful woman in the world but I can do better than that - and so can your friend.
I agree with stubbornstains. Her husband is trying to destroy her self-esteem, so that it becomes easier to manipulate her. Basically he's not looking for a wife, he's looking for a domestic appliance-sextoy-skivvy-slave. It's emotional abuse, and for her sanity, she need to get rid of him.