I have had numerous posts over the years about MIL so won't go into everything here
However, the long and short of it is that DH has said that he thinks she has a personality disorder and has also shared some pretty disturbing thing about growing up with her and the terrible rages that she had whilst he was growing up and still has - ranting and screaming down the phone. She has form for falling out and alienating numerous family members and has no friends. Unfortunately she has recently retired/was sacked (we're not quite sure) so has lots of time on her hands
DH has agreed that he needs to put boundaries in place as I feel ill with stress and actually cannot cope with another 30 years of this - I'd rather separate even though we have an otherwise happy marriage
I have said I don't want to see them for a good while, I don't want to be contacted by them and I don't want to be left alone with them - DH finds them difficult and has form
for inviting them to our house and buggering off on patient emergencies.
Ive blocked mil's number etc. But Facebook is an issue. I use it to keep in touch with lots of people - particularly school mums so I don't want to delete it.
I have unfollowed MIL but have seen that she has been posting lots of passive aggressive statuses about people who ruin other people's lives etc .
I have put her on a restricted profile but would quite like to delete her. However, being a grey rock and just lying low seems the best thing to do. That said, I hate the thought of her pawing through my Facebook profile whilst raging - however innocuous the profile is
Any thoughts? DH putting up some boundaries is a big thing and I don't actually want to do anything that means that the situation sis further inflamed. That said, I just want a total break
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Toxic MIL - Howe to manage contact
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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 18/02/2017 13:16
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