So my husband goes to the gym two nights a week. He goes at night as it fits in with his work and all that. Sometimes he gets back at 1:20 in the morning. I'm left to settle the youngest child who is 8 months old . My son doesn't sleep easily, he wants to be breast fed to sleep, when he wakes up he's need to be breastfed back to sleep and when I ask my husband for help he always says ' I can't do nothing he wants breastmilk' I've tried letting him cry it doesn't work. The baby wants to sleep in my bed with me being constantly breastfed, he hates his cot and screams in it. I feel so resentful that he gets to go to work and to the gym and on the occasional night out and my life is stuck at home with the kids and a baby and the most time I have to myself is doing the food shopping for half an hour. I went to the dentist the other week to have a tooth out and had to come back to a baby screaming because he wanted my breastmilk and he couldn't settle him. I'm sick of it. He says I take him for granted and I just laugh at that! I had kids thinking it would be fair but it isn't because I end up having to stay at home and can't work because I have no family help, no confidence, no self esteem and his job is shift work so can't work around him so my only option was to have a family and stay at home as that's the only thing I'm good. If anyone asks why did I Have so many kids ( I have 5) it because I never thought I was capable of anything else. I was bullied at school and my mum was very controlling and never let me go anywhere. I went to college and had to be straight home so I thought my only option was to have a family as thats all I knew. I'm struggling and he doesn't care. He's always putting me down saying I have 'issues' and if I didn't meet him I would end up in a bad way. Seems like he has a free life to do how he pleases and I'm stuck and he says I'm not a proper wife. I don't trust him because he's text random girls before and I accuse him of cheating and that's why he goes mad but it's his fault for texting woman. He says he doesn't do that anymore but the damage is done. He's now giving me the silent treatment and tomorrow he ill expect me to apologise or he will have a massive speech on how much he hates being with me and he's planning to leave and he will give me pure hell tomorrow. I accused him of cheating on me tonight that's what's pissed him off but it's because I'm insecure because of what he's done in the past and because he goes out to the gym.
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