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I am RAGING

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Iamfuckingraging · 17/02/2017 20:30

Ladies help me, I've had an argument with dp and he has said some really really hurtful things. How do you all calm yourself down when you cannot believe what has been said??? I'm pasing, I have no wine in the fridge, my jaw is taking all the stress and tensions and I feel like its about to fall off (I unconsciously grind my teeth when angry)

How do you all woosah? For what it's worth I literally never get angry, it's takes so much to get me there and in this instance it has.

Please give me woke pointers before I rip my own hair out and pull doors off the hinges.

Also I have no children in the house so please don't worry about that.

Tyia 😠😭

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Iamfuckingraging · 17/02/2017 20:30

Some pointers*

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wishparry · 17/02/2017 20:33

Nice hot bath.some chocolates,then nip to the shop for some wine Smile

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wishparry · 17/02/2017 20:34

Or perhaps a joke...
what's brown and sticky?
A stick..
I'm not the best at jokes but perhaps somebody else will be able to help with that.

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Liara · 17/02/2017 20:35

Go for a walk. Fresh air always calms me down.

Although if it was something dh had done that had me in a rage I'd just have it out with him tbh.

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JobsAGoodun · 17/02/2017 20:36

Go out for a walk in the cold air! Big strides and possibly a cry. Then back for a hot bath.

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BrownEyedLady · 17/02/2017 20:37

Grab a pillow and have a good scream.

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HecateAntaia · 17/02/2017 20:37

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BrownEyedLady · 17/02/2017 20:38

Hecate that response made me chuckle!

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inlectorecumbit · 17/02/2017 20:38

go for a walk and buy a crate of wine...and crisps .

Plot revenge in hot bath.

Flowers

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SmileEachDay · 17/02/2017 20:39

Go for a run. I always do my best times when I'm rage running.

Run to the shop to get some wine.

Then run back.

But don't forget a backpack or you'll look like crazy wine running lady.

You want to talk about what was said?

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AhYerWill · 17/02/2017 20:43

I go do some exercise - go for a run or to the gym, anything to knacker myself out. When you're that wound up it's pretty much the fight or flight reponse kicking in - easiest way to release the stress is to do what your body has just primed itself for....

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Iamfuckingraging · 17/02/2017 20:46

Ladies thank you all so much for your responses ❤ my mum is on her way with wine the little beaut ❤
OK so it's wearing down now a little, I've just taken 5 kalms.
Yes ladies I would love to vent with you all... I'll go get my laptop 😚 (on my phone at the moment)

Thank you all again 💞

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BertieBotts · 17/02/2017 20:47

Go for a walk. Preferably to the shop but walking on my own in the dark just getting some fresh air and being near water always help me to get some perspective.

What on earth has he said though?!

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SmileEachDay · 17/02/2017 20:48


What? WHAT? I'm just being prepared.
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letmesleep123 · 17/02/2017 20:49

Another vote here for going for a run. My best results were when I was really annoyed with dh. Running to a shop to get a bottle of wine (or a tub of Ben n Jerrys) is a genius idea. Can't believe I have not thought of that!

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ApproachingATunnel · 17/02/2017 20:51

I rip into person who made me feel like that and dont calm down until they either listen or i make them feel equally as bad! Not really helpful, i know. I he still around?

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SmileEachDay · 17/02/2017 20:53

It's a bit hurty on your back, bouncing around. This is mitigated somewhat by strategically packed bags of peanuts.

Or so my friends tell me.

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Beeziekn33ze · 17/02/2017 20:54

Cleaning or gardening does it for me. I wouldn't like to say what I imagine I'm doing with the spade!!

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CherrySkull · 17/02/2017 20:56

i find screaming into a pillow and/or beating the crap out of it usually help!

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SuperFlyHigh · 17/02/2017 20:57

A walk, longer than 10 minutes but a walk.

If all else fails then Gin helps.

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LexieLulu · 17/02/2017 20:58

I cry, which is weird as I'm not a crier at all. But sometimes when I get too angry, I just take myself to bed and have a cry.

It doesn't make me feel better so to speak, but it switches the anger to upset which I can deal with

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londonrach · 17/02/2017 21:06

One word....chocolate!!! 🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫

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SeptemberBlues · 17/02/2017 21:07

Go for a run. It's literally the only thing that works for me, and I don't worry about my safety on a night run because I'm so cross I'll be glowing with danger signs.

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SpringsInMySteps · 17/02/2017 21:09

Your adrenaline and cortisol are racing around your bloodstream. Affecting your brain and your heart. You need to fight or flight. You don't want to fight so you have to do the flight.

So a really brisk walk or run. Get your heart-rate up. Slightly out of breath. Your body will recognise this as getting you out of "danger" and the adrenaline/cortisol will dissipate. You will feel calmer.

Tis just chemicals.

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AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/02/2017 21:11

Depends what he said really.

Packing his bags would probably be quite therapeutic.

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