Ok so I posted months ago about dh texting v a woman at our stables. As he had no previous history of doing anything like this before and the messages that I saw although he did start to delete them and become secretive with phone weren't suggestive and they were no longer in contact I decided against a lot of mums netters advice to try and work at it. He has shown little responsibility and insisted things like him moving to him mums were him digging his heels in about me telling who he can be friends with the contact was ended by her and I had to fight to get him to remove her off facebook. It has caused my not to trust him especially as he insists on having a passcode on his phone but we were moving on me with the attitude if he's up to no good I will find out in the end. No this might sound ridiculous but today I saw v on his WhatsApp but the message deleted none of his other chats are deleted but hers I wasn't snooping I stood behind him while he was sending another message and her no was there not a name so she obviously isn't on his contacts. He tried to turn his phone away so I couldn't see. He said he brought her horse in 2 months ago and she what app to says thanks so if it's innocent why delete the chat. ? I calmly asked him that and he said he thought deleting the chat deleted it all to which I said ffs u know it hasn't as u see he pic every time u use WhatsApp which is daily. So of course he got angry accused me of dragging it up again. if someone can link the original post that may help stupid thing is that it probably was about the horse but it's the secrecy and lies I am struggling with
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