Hi guys,
So I have been with my newly crowed fiancé for two years now, getting married next October.
The issue is he has a fear of travelling. It was something he kept very quiet whilst we were dating and has come to light over the last 6 months or so. I didn't realise how big of a problem it is for him because he never mentioned it. It has now got to the point where I am trying my absolute hardest to be sympathetic and supportive but I feel like I am hitting my head against a brick wall. He says he 100% wants to battle this for me but has made no effort to do anything towards figuring this out.
I am constantly offering other solutions; driving, trains, ferries etc but he isn't interested in that. We have been offered to go skiing in the New Year with my family which is something I LOVE but even though I said we can find an alternative travel route he won't even consider going as skiing isn't for him. Again, trying to find a way around it, I told him that we wouldn't have to ski, just enjoy a few days in the mountains but again he won't budge.
I have done a lot to include myself in his life, sometimes putting myself in situations that I feel uncomfortable with because I know it means the world to him that I am trying. I don't know what to do anymore. I am becoming increasingly frustrated with it and when I try to talk to him about it he says that I am being unsympathetic and making him feel like a let down.
Does anybody have any advice? I love him to pieces but I'm scared this is going to drive a wedge between us. Thanks in advance.
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