NC in case he reads this! I'm a regular on the dating and relationship boards.
Started dating a guy 3 months ago (we've actually known each other a long time as acquaintances )
Immediate fireworks for us both - instant falling in love stuff, planning futures (mutually doing this!) etc etc
Had a mild disagreement last night - I have problems with the kids dad, who is massively coercive and emotional abusive and there's a current issue that's causing some problems for me and the kids with him.
Ex is picking the kids up for contact tomorrow as usual. New guy wants to be there for 'support'. I've said categorically that no, it's fine 'I got this' - I've been dealing with the ex fro a long time now, and this isn't anything massively out of the ordinary . New guy is now huffy because he sees it as supporting the woman he loves, and that as we're a unit, we should be doing this together.
I'm pretty independent and I can feel smothered and stifled quite easily - I don't want us to be living in each other's pockets, and I'm just feeling a bit niggly that he wants us to be exactly that.
I'm conflicted. Is this red flaggy behaviour or am I just not used to someone wanting to have my back???
Should I turn my radar on and keep an objective eye on this??
Thoughts people?
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Skyflag · 16/02/2017 10:51
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