I've recently had a difficult time with a split from an ex (quite a while ago now but still struggling a little bit) and the financial turmoil the split caused. Things are ok now but my parents have been less than understanding. Just before Christmas in a conversation I said I'm feeling a bit better and mum said 'does that mean we can have a nice Christmas now' - I don't know how me hurting would have ruined their Christmas and it just made me feel worse. She'll also call me and when I answer and start to talk, I'll notice she's talking with someone at a check out at a till or she's picked up her mobile while I'm mid sentence and she's having another call. I've said calmly please only call me if you can actually speak and other times I've got cross that I've called her back mid dinner or whatever else (after she's called incessantly) only for her to behave like that to me.
Whenever I call them out on the behaviour, they'll say I ruined holidays for them when I was a child and that here I am again making a fuss and they're 'too old for this now.'
I was an extremely anxious child and I do have menories of feeling very stressed on holidays. As an adult I'm wondering why they are bringing this up, though. And why they didn't help me as a child when I was suffering.
I don't know if I can take the guilt trips anymore - especially when I was a child and have very limited memories of it all!
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Being told I 'ruined all my parents holidays' as a child whenever I call them out on anything
Dineoutone · 15/02/2017 20:56
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