NC for this one.
Sorry if a bit long but need to let it out been bothering me for long time.
A bit of background:
Been together for 10 years have 2dc and pregnant.
In general he is kind, sensible, respect me, he have his issues, not the smartest specially at work and a bit lazy, have no value for money.
He doesn't talk much, specially when sad or angry. He keep it to himself and want his space.
When talking about me in public he says that i am the best think that ever happened to him, he wouldn't survive without me.
His way of making me happy is keeping things that he know I wouldn't like a secret.
Like he would lie to my face about stupid things just to try not to argue with me.
On the other hand:
I can be a bit controlling, but i feel someone have to sail the ship and he isn't specially financially.
I love to talk and to open up about my feelings but with him not responding i am used of letting it go.
Our sexual life isn't that good. He can stay away for a month or more and most of the time its me who make the move.
When i ask him if he is happy he replies that he can't be happier and there is nothing more that he would wish for.
Well i am not happy.
I feel that i am not his wife, i just feel that i am a business partner. I feel the only reason we are together is the kids. I don't feel that he is attracted to me. I feel sometimes that maybe he have a secret life somewhere (i must admit i have no proof of that).
We are under stress specially financially and socially. We live in a country with no relatives at all, he is working full time i work part time.
No savings and not much friends.
I feel so lonely.
If I don't organise a day out for the weekend we will spend it at home. He never make the effort and if I complain he always put not having enough money as excuse and that going out cost a lot. If he ever plan something we always end up paying a lot.
I guess thats why he always wants me to plan. But i am fed up.
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weirdfeeling · 15/02/2017 13:51
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