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I think DH is out with someone else

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Euphemia Tue 14-Feb-17 21:56:52

Valentines Day too, the cunt. angry

Told me he was going away overnight with work.
I found two cinema tickets for tonight in his pencil case in his work bag, for a movie I don't like, so I knew they weren't for me.
Also in pencil case a week ago were four of his "top-up" ED tablets; only two were in there at the weekend. (He takes a regular tablet every morning, kept in bathroom.)
Nothing in his work diary about trip, but a note of the time of the film.
No train tickets bought: he usually buys them in advance, reserves a seat, etc.
Car not parked at train station he'd usually use today.
He'd usually do prep work at home for such a trip - no work done in advance of this one.
No answers to my texts all evening.

It doesn't look good does it? He'll be in the cinema now - do I text him saying I know he's lied, or wait and confront him face to face tomorrow evening?

Bastard. sad He's been acting weird with his phone as well - when I put my light out to go to sleep he taps away on his phone, pausing as if waiting for a reply, and I can see his shadow on the wall smiling/pulling faces as he seems to hold the phone up to take a photo of himself.

His phone never leaves his side and I don't know his password.

Bastard. sad

Things seem fine otherwise. I thought we were happy. But I can't think of any other explanation for the above. I can't imagine how he could explain all that away as something innocent.

RJnomore1 Tue 14-Feb-17 21:58:24

Oh euphemia

It doesn't sound good no. This may be a bit bonkers but could you go to the cinema and loiter at coming out time?

RJnomore1 Tue 14-Feb-17 21:58:47

Does he have any form?

ivykaty44 Tue 14-Feb-17 21:59:21

Oh dear, it seems such a certainty. What do you want to happen?

CatsBatsEars Tue 14-Feb-17 22:00:56

sad doesn't sound good.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 14-Feb-17 22:01:36

I would have gone to the cinema.

Pinotwoman82 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:02:38

Do you have any DC? Could you go to the cinema and wait outside?

BastardGoDarkly Tue 14-Feb-17 22:03:06

Have you got kids? If not go to the cinema, wait for them duplicitous cunt him to come out.

Autumnchill Tue 14-Feb-17 22:03:16

Another vote for sitting outside the cinema. I don't think I could help myself.

Mo55chop5 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:03:31

Call his bluff.

Text him how was (name of film)? I hope you are having fun

Then ignore the texts/calls he will undoubtedly send in a panic

Euphemia Tue 14-Feb-17 22:03:49

The cinema is an hour away near his workplace and I have DD (14) in the house.

taptonaria27 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:03:53

I assume his phone isn't an iPhone? Find my iPhone or find friends are both brilliant.
I guess you'll have to ask him outright about it and see what he says but no it really doesn't look good- sorry

CookieLady Tue 14-Feb-17 22:05:17

sad an unnumsnetty hug for you.

magoria Tue 14-Feb-17 22:05:41

I would do what Mo55 suggests.

Send him a text, ask him how the film was.

Ilovecaindingle Tue 14-Feb-17 22:05:51

Text him you know where he is and that his stuff is in the garden next to the bins. . Then switch your phone off til tomo. .

Idrinkandiknowstuff Tue 14-Feb-17 22:05:55

I'd totally go to the cinema. A 14 year old can be left for a couple of hours.

Greenfingeredfun Tue 14-Feb-17 22:07:38

I would text 'how's the film'?
Fucking cunt.
I'm sorry flowerswine

Euphemia Tue 14-Feb-17 22:08:56

I can't leave DD - what do I say to her? I'm off for a drive at 10pm?! The film doesn't end til midnight.

He has an iPhone but no Find My Friends or anything on it.

tiredofhavingtothinkofnewnames Tue 14-Feb-17 22:09:33

Misses point- but no-one has cinema tickets anymore? It is all on line or by app?

WinterRose92 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:10:06

I'm sorry, it doesn't sound good. I agree with waiting outside the cinema, I don't think I could sit at home wondering what the hell is going on. I'd be fuming. Hope you are okay, sending you a hug x

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 14-Feb-17 22:10:20

Yep, certainly text & ask him how the film was.

Leave him with no uncertainty that you know.

I'm so sorry. I honestly can't work out an innocent explanation for this in my mind.

WhatsGoingOnEh Tue 14-Feb-17 22:10:24

He's got a pencil case?? LTB.

Euphemia Tue 14-Feb-17 22:10:28

I now don't know if he has form - I've been so trusting. sad

Sugarlumps333 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:11:40

Don't text him anything / he will know you know and cover his tracks.

Sugarlumps333 Tue 14-Feb-17 22:11:58

Sorry meant: don't text him asking about the cinema!

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