I have name changed for this as I have asked advice recently about our divorce and feel I may identify myself.
Myself and ex have seperated and have two DCs, one 4 years old and one 6 months.
Ex has the eldest a few days per week but no overnights as he is staying with his parents and nowhere suitable for DC to sleep.
The youngest is still exclusively breastfed so he only sees the baby around me, without going into it all too much, things have been difficult between us so his contact with DS until recently has just been an hour here and there. I have put aside our animosity so he can spend time with DS and today he came over to put the DC to bed. I stayed seperate and let him take the reins and used the time to do housework etc. I walked in to check he needed help getting baby out the bath and caught him texting giving no attention to DC. I couldn't see the content of the message but it wasn't a short ''yes okay" or anything so his attention was not fully with DC for some time. The baby has a bath support which enables you to be hands free enough, but he could still very easily roll of it/slip down. I was really upset, took baby out the bath got him dressed, he put eldest to bed and has now gone.
Now I have the scenario going over and over in my head, I don't know if he can be trusted if he thought it was safe to text bathing a small baby
We have talked about his phone use before as in the small times we are together he is organising work/friends etc. And I have said could you not leave that until you get home rather than waste your hour/few hours with DC.
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Flickk22 · 14/02/2017 19:57
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