For a bit of background, my DF once again showed himself to be the narcissistic, selfish idiot I've known he is for a while. He has a history of stealing money (from me and my brother's savings as children, from my DM - now divorced from him), cheating (which he justifies as retribution for my mums affair before they were married many years ago), twisting words, imagining himself to be a successful businessman which he isn't (a string of failed businesses including his latest one which is currently falling to pieces).
I went low contact with him about 5 years ago to protect myself as each time something else came out, it hurt like hell.
Things have been good in this time, and I guess I've been letting my guard down gradually and this weekend we went to stay with him and see his new extension and also meet my brothers new 3 week old baby. As soon as we got there it was obvious something was up - it turns out my DF has been siphoning off money into a secret savings account from the joint business he and my brother own 50/50 to the tune of £20,000. Which has paid for his new extension.
My brother always idolised him and never wanted to see his dad in the way I do - and now he has. His heart is breaking, as is mine all over again. They have a 3 week old baby - and now he is looking at finding employment or starting from scratch. He's lost everything.
I'm gutted. Currently considering options - do I go NC? Can I do it? Looking into the future it seems so final and painful. My brother wants nothing more to do with him.
He - typically, as I read more about narcissistic personality types - thinks he's done nothing wrong (he was, after all, just borrowing the money!!!) and said my outpouring of anger and disappointment is making him feel suicidal, which is making me falter to make the final cut. I'm fairly sure that's bull, but it's had the desired effect.
Any help or advice appreciated - did going totally NC help you? I'm worried the guilt will cripple me
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Has anyone gone NC with parent and regretted it?
littleshoutymouse · 14/02/2017 14:27
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