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Hope for leaving an emotionally abusive ex

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helpmeplease2045 Mon 13-Feb-17 12:23:54

Just wanted to update really.

I wrote on here in December all problems with my husband and I. Two young children also.

I decided, thanks in part to support on here, to leave him at the end of December and nearly two months later life is so so so much better.

It is so nice waking up in the morning and just getting on with our day. There is nobody shouting at me, telling me all the things I am doing wrong, bring ratty with me / negative / telling me and the kids all the reasons why we can't so the things we want.

I took them to the cinema and we had cereal for supper special treat as it was the weekend, no-one eye rolling, bitching, making a comment about dishes. We go to the park, to their clubs, to playdates or we sit up all snuggly on the coach and watch a movie. I've decided to take them away for a few nights in the February break spontaneously. We can swim, go to parks and for walks.

It's like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders. He has them two days a week when I work and I miss them but have used this time after work to clean, chill, take baths, watch tv etc and then give them my all on the other five days.

I don't know why I am writing this other than to say there can be real happiness and if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship then there is hope xx

MyheartbelongstoG Mon 13-Feb-17 14:15:05

It's wonderful isn't it!

Well done op. Your break in Feb sounds great and I'm sure you'll all have a great time.

I love leaving dirty dishes until the morning if I'm wrecked.

He would hate that!

Greaterexpectations Mon 13-Feb-17 15:19:03

Great post op. It's lovely to read how well things are going for you.

I just wanted to say that if you posted in December your post was probably one that helped me to make the decision to leave my emotionally abusive bf so thank you for that. Like you I'm so much happier now and enjoying the freedom to be myself again.

Wingsofdesire Mon 13-Feb-17 15:26:38

What a great post. Yes, so important for others to hear that. So happy for you and the children.

How did you actually make the break in the end? In these situations it can be very daunting, the engineering of 'the end'. And tricky, if not actually dangerous. How did you do it?

helpmeplease2045 Mon 13-Feb-17 15:53:37

I was lucky to have my parents support and they live nearby. I secretly packed bags when he was at work and then said I was heading over to my folks next day, in my case I knew he would be in bed as he had been drinking the night before. It was sneaky but even walking over to my parents I started to feel the relief x

flirtygirl Mon 13-Feb-17 16:18:03

Congrats Op, i read all posts like this in December andJjanuary too as well and its great to hear some good news, Mumsnet is a great thing and I wish you all the best for your new future.

TheGirlWhoWasntThere Mon 13-Feb-17 21:59:05

Congratulations op.

Here's to you and your children's wonderful new future.

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