I'm not really sure what I'm looking for as I don't post all that often but I don't really feel I can talk to anyone in RL about this. I'm struggling to get along with my husband. He says he loves me but I don't always feel very supported by him and sometimes I even feel a bit bullied by him. He often undermines and bosses me about in front of our children .He's not a very emotional person whereas I am , however, I always saw this as a quality of his but recently I have felt so alone and annoyed that he doesn't seem to get excited about anything. I do most of the housework but when he does help he usually moves things that I use on a daily basis and puts them somewhere and I end up spending ages looking for them or asking him/getting annoyed with him. I have tried to talk to him about these issues but he seems to get very defensive and if I say anything like 'i feel you micro manage me' he 'holds up the mirror ' IFSWIM and often throws the same statement right back at me. I just sometimes feel like its so draining , am I fighting a losing battle here ?
I think you ne d to see a relationship counsellor. You can go together or alone if he won't go. This might give you some clarity over what you are getting from your relationship at the moment and if it is enough, if not what's changed. Has your partners behaviour altered, have you just lost patience with him that sort of thing.