Where I live there is a very well regarded couple: funny, great jobs, lovely DC, wealthy, good looking, influential, do loads for the community. When i was with my exP, we were 15 years younger but they and other people took us under their wing. I used to be great friends with the wife back when I was with my exP too, but around the time that we broke up, everything went wrong.
I was in quite a vulnerable position when I broke up with my ex as he was borderline abusive. I was alone with not much money and I confided in this woman and she made sure that I was included in various things where we live and with all of mine and exP's mutual friends.
During an event at her house she told me to come up to their bedroom which they'd recently renovated so I could see what they'd done with it. They had a new bed and she told me to try it out. I thought that was a bit weird but maybe she was just having a laugh and we were very good friends so lay down on it together on top of the duvet and I was saying how comfortable it was and we were chatting about general stuff.
Next thing I know her husband comes in and lays down next to us. I got up, feeling it was slightly awkward and said I would go back outside. They both got annoyed with me and told me to "relax" and pulled me back down. So I very awkwardly stayed on the bed with them with her husband hugging me and running his hand on my arm until they started kissing and began to take each other's clothes off. When I tried to leave again they gave me the impression that I had somehow led them on which I hadn't. It was very much a "you have to go ahead with this now because you've got us excited." I inmediately made my excuses and left to go back outside to the other guests.
At the time I was very confused and naive and just thought they were very highly sexed and I had accidentally been in the wrong place, wrong time, but looking back now I see exactly what it was - at the very least they were trying to get me to have sex with him and at the most, they wanted a threesome.
Well since then they stopped speaking to me. Completely. They also told other people that we know that they no longer spoke to me. No reason why but they are giving the impression that it is something I have done but because they are "discreet" and good people they are not saying.
This has caused a huge amount of problems for me in friendships and work relationships. It means I get excluded from events in the town, I find it hard to make friends and - because here your employment is very much wrapped up in what you do socially as it's a market town - it has affected my work. They have massively affected my life.
It has got to the point that I am extremely tempted to tell people what happened, but I'm not sure how to do it. It sounds so far-fetched, inappropriate and ludicrous as no one would ever think that of them. People actually say to me "why does X dislike you so much?" I would like to be able to have an answer that I could tell people from my closest friends to potential employers.
What should I say?
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Couple have made my life difficult after I turned down a threesome. How to explain to others?
Ffsishowifeelabouteverything · 12/02/2017 16:15
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