Looking for advice:
ok so Friday night my DP came home after being away for two days. Both kids at grandparents, dinner in the oven a bottle of wine on the table. The problem? I had my engagement ring on the wrong finger.
Why have you got your ring on the wrong finger? Oh I didn't realise. Is it?
You know it is! Now you mention it, but does it really matter?
Yes why have you done that? I didn't do it on purpose?
I expect you didn't wear it at all today and you have just put it on! Oh stop being so stupid (i leave the room) when I go back in ...
Who have you friended on facebook? Pardon?
Who have you friended on facebook? Mmm The new lady at work.
Why have you done that? I was just chatting to her today so friended her.
Who else have you friended? No one
Well you have three more friends than the last time I looked, who is it?
I haven't friended anyone else, honestly. Look ( I show my friends list)
So now the evening is ruined. I'm angry and can't be bothered to speak to him.
He goes to another room as he cant sit there if I'm not going to talk to him.
Then he keeps coming in goading me.
You really don't want this to work do you
you're a cold hard bitch
you're just like you're mother
you are driving a wedge between us.
I tell him that I just don't want to feel like this anymore. I haven't done anything wrong.
he says its all my fault as i do not initiate sex anymore, I don't text him enough when he's away, i don't fling my arms around him when he returns. Because I wont talk about why I am not like this.
Eventually he goes to bed. I know I am shutting down. I have been for over two years, just gradually feeing worn down and numb. So when he says its my fault I believe him.
this is not the first incident, infact these kind of arguments are getting more regular. Is it me?
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DP is driving me mad, am I?
marilyn246 · 12/02/2017 13:37
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