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We have a ds who is 7m. I am breastfeeding and on the pill, we are awaiting all clear from vascectomy carried out last month. We have had sex 4 times since ds was born. DH wants more, alot more. I'm not bothered. He feels that I don't find him attractive, or don't enjoy sex. That's not the case, it just doesn't enter my mind. I don't notice when it's been a while but he does. He could practically tell you how many days/weeks it has been.
It's all come to a head today because I fell asleep last night when putting ds to bed.
He basically spent an hour ranting at me and I have no solutions. He thinks there is something wrong, possibly psychologically with me and wants me to go to the drs. I otoh think what we're going through/how I feel is on the normal side - maybe not normal to all but it's not completely unheard of iykwim? We went through this with another child too but he seems to have forgotten this! It did eventually get better once I stopped bf but dc was older than ds is now and I don't feel ready to stop.
I'm going to go to drs anyway so that he sees I am trying but I can't just flick a switch and want to have sex all the time, it's going to take time again to work up to a better frequency.
Has anyone else gone through this or similar and come out the other side? I love him so much but I can see that it is becoming a serious issue for him. It's easy to say oh just have sex more but it's not that simple for me.
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Struggling - sex life after baby
PipplingsLoveCheebies · 11/02/2017 16:55
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