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Jessica4444 · 11/02/2017 13:14

Ok been with DH for a few years, he has since ended up in the nick. He had been requesting pictures of me for the last month, I gave him photo's of me some naked As well he's since come out with comments how I put him off, and even said I look like I've had a stroke in one of them. Don't know what to say to him, or what I should do about this. I can't understand why he's being like this towards me.

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BitchPeas · 11/02/2017 13:16

Is he in prison? If so, Just don't answer his calls or emails or texts and don't send him any more bloody photos.

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redexpat · 11/02/2017 13:21

Bitch has it.

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DelphiniumBlue · 11/02/2017 13:23

Are you crazy? Sending naked pictures of yourself to a man in prison, who clearly does not respect you or even like you? What do you think is going to happen to those photos??
I hope you are not actually married to this man, but whether you are or not, now's a good time to LTB.

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corythatwas · 11/02/2017 13:24

OP, if you are actually real, the present situation is bad enough: so far from being there for you, this man can't even keep out of jail, you've sent him naked photos which you would have to be incredibly naïve not to realise will be passed from inmate to inmate to comment on, and now he doesn't think you look glamorous enough to up his status among his fellow lags.

This is where you walk away. Because, you know what? You are the one on the outside, you are the one that can make decisions, you are the one that should realise that you are too good for this.

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Jessica4444 · 11/02/2017 13:26

I know I've been a complete idiot I fell for it.

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Wondermoomin · 11/02/2017 14:07

Well you could always let the prison know he has a mobile in there with him Hmm

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Jessica4444 · 11/02/2017 14:08

He doesn't have a mobile, I sent these via post

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Wondermoomin · 11/02/2017 15:46

Your naked pictures in the post got through screening? Ok. 😂🤔🙄

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Jessica4444 · 11/02/2017 15:51

Yes porn magazines can be purchased in prison so sending photos in is allowed

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MrsDilligaf · 11/02/2017 15:54

No way would pics like that have made it into DH's prison. No way.

But actually I would LTB for being so bloody spiteful.

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Juveniledelinquent · 11/02/2017 15:55

Hasn't this already been posted?

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TheRumTumTugger · 11/02/2017 15:58

This is so bleak.

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CaoNiMa · 11/02/2017 16:45

How Dickensian.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 11/02/2017 16:45

"I can't understand why he's being like this towards me."
Because he is a bastard. And if he's like this with you in these circumstances, I think it's a fair bet he was a bastard before he was imprisoned. Do yourself a favour, and arrange for a divorce ASAP.

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Deathraystare · 11/02/2017 16:51

I think you must be VERY young. Let this be a lesson learned!

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NorksAreMessy · 11/02/2017 16:54

"How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen"

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OnHold · 11/02/2017 16:57

Yeah this happened.

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steph821027 · 11/02/2017 16:57

You cannot buy porn magazines in prison GrinGrinGrin

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charlyn · 11/02/2017 17:04

Do people really get naked pictures of themselves printed??

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ratspeaker · 11/02/2017 17:06

The reason he is doing this is he is in prison. He feels bad. He wants you to feel bad too. He wants to control you.
So he demeans and belittles you. Bet the next thing will be him saying you're lucky to have him, no other man will look at you. Sos and so from the same cell block thinks that too. Criticising, so when he is eventually released you will be gratefull to have him back.
He will only get worse.
You cant change him.
Prison is not making his character any better is it.

What to do about it?
Go see a divorce lawyer. Take copies of those letters

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user1468353179 · 11/02/2017 17:06

I had a stroke two months and look perfectly normal, tell him to fuck off!!!

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AnotherUsedName13 · 11/02/2017 17:07

NorksAreMessy - I just sprayed my tea across the keyboard!

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DelphiniumBlue · 11/02/2017 18:51

Lol Norks

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wherearemymarbles · 11/02/2017 19:40

So did he also say the men who read all his post also agreed with him.?

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Jessica4444 · 11/02/2017 20:08

He did yes Confused

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