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Jessica4444 Sat 11-Feb-17 13:14:27

Ok been with DH for a few years, he has since ended up in the nick. He had been requesting pictures of me for the last month, I gave him photo's of me some naked As well he's since come out with comments how I put him off, and even said I look like I've had a stroke in one of them. Don't know what to say to him, or what I should do about this. I can't understand why he's being like this towards me.

BitchPeas Sat 11-Feb-17 13:16:18

Is he in prison? If so, Just don't answer his calls or emails or texts and don't send him any more bloody photos.

redexpat Sat 11-Feb-17 13:21:57

Bitch has it.

DelphiniumBlue Sat 11-Feb-17 13:23:34

Are you crazy? Sending naked pictures of yourself to a man in prison, who clearly does not respect you or even like you? What do you think is going to happen to those photos??
I hope you are not actually married to this man, but whether you are or not, now's a good time to LTB.

corythatwas Sat 11-Feb-17 13:24:19

OP, if you are actually real, the present situation is bad enough: so far from being there for you, this man can't even keep out of jail, you've sent him naked photos which you would have to be incredibly naïve not to realise will be passed from inmate to inmate to comment on, and now he doesn't think you look glamorous enough to up his status among his fellow lags.

This is where you walk away. Because, you know what? You are the one on the outside, you are the one that can make decisions, you are the one that should realise that you are too good for this.

Jessica4444 Sat 11-Feb-17 13:26:29

I know I've been a complete idiot I fell for it.

Wondermoomin Sat 11-Feb-17 14:07:59

Well you could always let the prison know he has a mobile in there with him hmm

Jessica4444 Sat 11-Feb-17 14:08:56

He doesn't have a mobile, I sent these via post

Wondermoomin Sat 11-Feb-17 15:46:37

Your naked pictures in the post got through screening? Ok. 😂🤔🙄

Jessica4444 Sat 11-Feb-17 15:51:22

Yes porn magazines can be purchased in prison so sending photos in is allowed

MrsDilligaf Sat 11-Feb-17 15:54:02

No way would pics like that have made it into DH's prison. No way.

But actually I would LTB for being so bloody spiteful.

Juveniledelinquent Sat 11-Feb-17 15:55:39

Hasn't this already been posted?

TheRumTumTugger Sat 11-Feb-17 15:58:05

This is so bleak.

CaoNiMa Sat 11-Feb-17 16:45:19

How Dickensian.

WhereYouLeftIt Sat 11-Feb-17 16:45:32

"I can't understand why he's being like this towards me."
Because he is a bastard. And if he's like this with you in these circumstances, I think it's a fair bet he was a bastard before he was imprisoned. Do yourself a favour, and arrange for a divorce ASAP.

Deathraystare Sat 11-Feb-17 16:51:34

I think you must be VERY young. Let this be a lesson learned!

NorksAreMessy Sat 11-Feb-17 16:54:31

"How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen"

OnHold Sat 11-Feb-17 16:57:24

Yeah this happened.

steph821027 Sat 11-Feb-17 16:57:55

You cannot buy porn magazines in prison gringringrin

charlyn Sat 11-Feb-17 17:04:10

Do people really get naked pictures of themselves printed??

ratspeaker Sat 11-Feb-17 17:06:02

The reason he is doing this is he is in prison. He feels bad. He wants you to feel bad too. He wants to control you.
So he demeans and belittles you. Bet the next thing will be him saying you're lucky to have him, no other man will look at you. Sos and so from the same cell block thinks that too. Criticising, so when he is eventually released you will be gratefull to have him back.
He will only get worse.
You cant change him.
Prison is not making his character any better is it.

What to do about it?
Go see a divorce lawyer. Take copies of those letters

user1468353179 Sat 11-Feb-17 17:06:32

I had a stroke two months and look perfectly normal, tell him to fuck off!!!

AnotherUsedName13 Sat 11-Feb-17 17:07:32

NorksAreMessy - I just sprayed my tea across the keyboard!

DelphiniumBlue Sat 11-Feb-17 18:51:56

Lol Norks

wherearemymarbles Sat 11-Feb-17 19:40:36

So did he also say the men who read all his post also agreed with him.?

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