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Is POF dating site the right site for me?

(34 Posts)
welshcakesareyummy Fri 10-Feb-17 20:31:08

I am single and joined a paid dating site but not really having much luck. Can't really afford it anymore so was thinking about joining POF. Heard many stories, good and bad. I'm training to become a nurse and wondering if I should be putting myself out there as such. Not even sure that's a silly question and not implying people on there are putting themselves out there in a bad way. I am allowed to date right? It's just POF is very open to everyone and anyone (dodgy)
I'm not judging, honestly. Just concerned as it's my career.

Wingletang1 Fri 10-Feb-17 20:58:28

I've only been online dating for a short time, POF can be a bit over the top, you'll get loads of messages in a short space of time, which I found a nightmare, but purserveerd for a bit and have actually met a really nice genuine man. I was also on tinder and bumble which in ways I preferred as you only get messages from people you have liked. You will need to develop a thick skin though ... Saying that I've had dates with 4 men and non of them were players. There is a great dating thread on here where you will gets lots of hand holding! grin

Wingletang1 Fri 10-Feb-17 20:59:10

By the way I'm in education, so get what you mean about your career!

Lovemusic33 Fri 10-Feb-17 21:07:01

I find POF hard work but a good confidence boost. You will get loads of messages but ignore 75% of them, a lot of them will say 'hi sexy' (ignore, ignore), a lot of men on there are after one thing, you just need to trawl through and pick out the ones that sound genuine. I have been on quite a few dates, sone were really odd but I have met several normal ish men and have made a few friends when I haven't felt a spark.

ThatsPlenty Fri 10-Feb-17 21:07:03

I met my partner of four years on POF. I had loads of messages from married men looking for "fun"(no thank you) and people sending rude photosshock. I was on the verge on deleting my account when I met my partner. There are genuine, decent men on there but you have to sift through the rubbish first. Good lucksmile

karalime Fri 10-Feb-17 21:13:43

I don't rate POF, I found it a bit basic and tbh it didn't really have the sort of guys that I am attracted to, although I know others that like it.

I much preferred OKCupid because you can put in a lot more information, see if people have the same sort of values as you and you can filter out messages.

However my favourite is Tinder. Having to match with people before you can chat really filters out the spam. I've met some nice guys on there and I met my current dp on it.

BlahBlahBlahEtc Fri 10-Feb-17 21:16:59

You really need to have a thick skin and weedle out the freaks and weirdos on POF..but i met my soon to be husband on there so it's not all bad grin

PenguinDi Fri 10-Feb-17 21:22:53

I found my DP on pof 2 years ago and we're getting married in September. It's a good confidence booster and there are a lot of weirdos on there, but there are some good people ones too.

Maxwellthecat Fri 10-Feb-17 21:24:53

I was on POF for a year and never met up with anyone as I didn't find anyone I liked. I just used it when I was bored in the end.
But then I saw a man who seemed perfect for me, I sent him a message and we met up and we married three years later and five years later we are still together.
POF is what you make it, as long as you don't mind weeding through a lot of rough there's a couple of diamonds on there.

jeaux90 Fri 10-Feb-17 21:26:01

The thing I liked about Pof was the sheer volume of choice grin been doing old for a few years and also quite like match.

Didn't really like tinder.

I'm off it now though, met someone through work in the end confused

BlueFolly Fri 10-Feb-17 21:31:26

I'm not judging, honestly

It kind of sounds like you are, or it wouldn't occur to you to say you weren't.

I am naice and educated and have done very well on POF. The main thing is not to have a 'sexy' profile or write anything you wouldn't want anyone from work reading. So long as your profile isn't cringe then it doesn't matter who sees it, because yes, you are indeed allowed to date.

Good luck.

BumDNC Fri 10-Feb-17 21:31:43

I met my BF on POF and so far he isn't a sleazy weirdo.

BumDNC Fri 10-Feb-17 21:32:29

Any dating site is open to anyone

Bluebellevergreen Fri 10-Feb-17 21:36:05

I met DH on POF. But there is a lot of crap there (I dont mean crap people, but players and time wasters and cheaters and so on)

So you can but be prepared to have a thick skin and time

welshcakesareyummy Fri 10-Feb-17 21:43:15

Thankyou everyone.
I didn't mean to sound like I was judging. I have worked so hard to get into university. I wasn't sure if I was pushing the 'professional' boundaries.
Well I jave a profile now. I suppose it's about keeping a low profile right?
Nice to read all the positive stories 👍

BumDNC Fri 10-Feb-17 21:57:06

I had a low profile too, it took longer but was better that way. My Bf is awesome I don't care where I met him!

jeaux90 Fri 10-Feb-17 22:16:35

Welsh I have a really good career and great reputation no one gives a fuck about old. It's just modern life.

Andywho Fri 10-Feb-17 23:18:01

In fairness its a circus met the ex there we had 3 good years together

Rubberduckies Sat 11-Feb-17 08:04:05

There are a lot of weirdos. Set good filters! But it was good for my confidence, I had some good dates with some decent guys, and I'm marrying one of them in May!

I think others are right, the sheer volume of people on there means that you're likely to find someone!

Ellisandra Sat 11-Feb-17 08:52:07

I think unless you're posing porno photos in your actual nurse's outfit (which bears not relation to the ones sold in sex shops grin) or hinting that you can steal drugs from your ward placement to fuel sex binges, then professional boundaries don't come into it.

Blobby10 Sat 11-Feb-17 09:42:13

Im on POF and finding it OK - not had any dates yet but chatting with half a dozen different men. Suspect that getting a date from any of them may mean I actually need to do the asking but tbh its not high on my agenda just now. However it is kind of interesting chatting to different people. It depends what you are looking for but why not try and see how it goes? Dont give out personal info especially your mobile number until you are totally happy. If its not working after a couple of months then try somewhere else!

Merlin40 Sat 11-Feb-17 09:47:32

I've tried tinder but due to career (school!) I've had to sack it off. Kept seeing students who had set their age as older.

Tried match but all the guys who I think I'd like don't message me back, and everyone else is a weirdo. (Maybe they think I'm a weirdo)

Think I might give POF a shot

Keeptrudging Sat 11-Feb-17 09:52:18

Met my DH on POF, he was my first and only online date! I found it ok, but just didn't engage with any dodgers. Their pictures were a great warning system - pictures of alcohol/cars/fish they've caught/half of their wedding pictures grin.

NetflixandBill Sat 11-Feb-17 10:30:35

I met my DH on pof. It was before Tinder so the most active site at the time. I think it depends which apps are popular in your area.

I found pof fine. Avoided people with topless photos and "don't really know why i'm on here" type profiles.

As i work in education i chose not to add a pic to my profile which meant i got no approaches (fine by me!). I would send a message to all those people who i liked the look of and attach a couple of photos to the message. Of those, maybe half would reply and we'd take it from there.

If they weren't interested in meeting within a couple of weeks i lost interest. I wasn't looking for a pen pal!

Shantotto Sat 11-Feb-17 10:32:39

OK Cupid is by far the best free dating site IMO - I had loads of dates with a low amount of weirdos! I wasted hours answering the questions too. It's also much better designed and pleasant to use.

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