(Not sure if this is the right thread to use but I couldn't find how to post in _Chat from my phone )
Wondering if someone can help!
Obviously a novice at this. We have just been putting together some lists and planning how we want the day to go. When the topic of groomsmen came up, neither of us were sure of how many you should have?
I know there will be no definite number but I just need an idea!
The wedding will have 70 people in the day and 90-100 people in the evening if that helps?
I will be having 3 adult bridesmaids and 2 child bridesmaids (10 and 13)
Really? You want to pay for the clothes of grooms friends? So traditionally there is a 'best man' who is dressed identically to the groom because, tradition has it, if anything happened to the groom the bride would marry the best man (usually a brother). Family feuds could end in deaths and the marriage was between families as much as the happy couple. As we tend to marry for love more often these days, it's just a quaint tradition to have a best man to support the groom who takes on responsibilities leaving the groom to be fully engaged in the ceremony. Groomsmen are the close 'kith and kin' and should simply wear what is appropriate for the ceremony. Of course if the groomsmen are of a uniformed regiment they might wear their dress outfit. But its certainly not necessary to buy identical clothes for the grooms best friends!
Sorry OP - I had thought that - if you're not paying - it really doesn't matter! Have as many or as few as he wants. As a tip - often the close male relatives and friends are given a button hole that matches the groom. Have a wonderful wedding!
I had 3 bridesmaids, DH had a best man and two ushers - one male, one female, I know this is untraditional but she was a very close friend. You don't HAVE to match numbers though, especially with little kids.