Does anyone have experience of living with someone that is mentally ill or you suspect that it is highly likely that they are? I have posted about various things to do with my DH before & quite a few people responded that they thought he sounded abusive/controlling. There have been problems right from the beginning but it's got worse lately. The idea of depression came up. We were due to go to couples counselling but my husband refused right at the last minute, saying that as he seemed to be the cause of most of the problems, he needed to sort his head out first. He didn't handle telling me this very well at all ( which is typical) but at least he admitted he needed help & he now has a doctors appt. The trouble is, I am doubting that he will go. He was extra nice to me all week before the counselling then turned on me. He has been extra nice this week & has said in passing that he is not sure he needs to see anyone as he feels ok now. He has said loads of times over the years that he is trying to change but it never happens. He can't change without help. I actually think he behaves more like someone with a personality disorder than with depression - it is often like living with 2 different people. The anger for no reason is the worst plus if I tell him his behaviour has upset me, that seems to anger him more. All of it affects me but I am trying to protect our 8 year old DD. If it was all the time I would have left but he can be so lovely. I am thinking of ringing Mind or Sane for advice but if anyone on here has any, it would be so welcome.
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tigercub50 · 10/02/2017 11:50
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