Not sure which forum to post this in but this is a relationship of sorts so I thought I'd try here.
I've been in a new job for a few months. It's been a huge learning curve. There was no handover because the person who was doing the job before left after having a strop. It's a part-time job (25 hours a week) but the previous person had 32 hours. I've also got a lot more responsibilities than the previous person - I think my employer saw her leaving as an opportunity to offload work from other people into my role.
Anyway, I seem to be coping except the person who's heading the accounts department is really getting me down. I don't have to have too much to do with her but every interaction I have she just rants on and on and it's impossible to get a word in edgeways.
She's had a go at me 3 times now for things that I've either already done or are just not a problem:
- I had to finish a load of accounts by a certain date which I did. I gave her hard copies of the accounts but also sent her an email explaining what I'd done and attaching all the spreadsheets where the hard copies had come from. She complained that I shouldn't have given her hard copies, they're useless to her and that I should have attached the spreadsheets. She went on and on for about 5 minutes while I kept trying to say, "But I did ...".
- I sent her some accounts again - attached the spreadsheet as before but not printed off. This time she complained about the name of the worksheet saying it had to have another name, it was vitally important and I must do things as they'd always been done. However, this is just a copy of the usual spreadsheet and I hadn't changed the worksheet name, it's always been that. Even if I had, she's only taking the figures off the sheet and putting them onto client's accounts; it makes no difference to anyone else. Tried telling her but she just keeps talking and repeating herself over and over.
- Someone else in her department queried a purchase order with me (from way before my time) and I told her what I thought it was for. She said they'd never received the invoices and I said I'd received them and had sent them to X (difficult person). I then get a phone call from X ranting about how she'd been searching for those invoices for months and it was vital that I made sure all invoices went to her ... blah blah blah. All the time I'm saying, "But I did, I sent them on 13th Dec .." but she just shuts me down. Her colleague came back to see me later saying how awful she'd felt and that she knew I'd sent them (I'd shown her the email earlier) and that X was lying.
She just doesn't listen at all. Every time she tells me something she goes into great detail about her job and how hard it is and that people don't understand and I need to understand ... blah blah blah. When I try to talk she just repeats herself.
I've tried approaching her before doing anything and asking how she would like it done and then she throws her arms wide apart saying, "I don't mind! I don't mind! You can do whatever you like." and then rants on and on incoherently.
I don't think she's very well really but it's getting me down so much. I know it's not just me because I hear she does it to lots of other people too. However, for my own sanity I need a way of handling her. I felt close to tears yesterday afternoon and was trembling after talking to her which seems such an overreaction.
I don't want to fall out with her but need to be able to defend myself or somehow come across as someone she can't treat like this. I need to toughen up.
Any ideas?