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sex with a sleeping baby in the room

(16 Posts)
ColdBrew Wed 08-Feb-17 00:07:35

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has had sex and/or masturbated on my bed while our baby was asleep a few feet away.

I was doing it without thinking but now I'm getting guilty feelings...

Valentine2 Wed 08-Feb-17 00:13:23

Why are you feeling guilty? grin
Your life, your body, your baby and your bed.
Sex becomes very adventurous with babies in bed IME. sorry for TMI grin

winchestercathedral Wed 08-Feb-17 00:22:09

MN has been bitterly divided on this topic in the past iirc.

There are (and have been throughout history) loads of cultures and countries in which long term cosleeping / 1 room homes are normal.

Why do you think you're feeling guilty?

mummyto2monkeys Wed 08-Feb-17 00:34:10

You are not alone! I used to put blankets over the side of the cot that my babies slept in. We co slept for years with both babies, whilst we had the bedside cot and could cover the side we made do with a quickly. Once they were tots that toddled through to our bed, sex was usually on the sofa or at any opportune moment possible! Its great now they are older and sleep all night in their own beds!

kel1234 Wed 08-Feb-17 00:58:27

We did. Our son is 17 months old and only went into his own room last month.

Aquamarine1029 Wed 08-Feb-17 02:32:46

Please stop having any guilty feelings. Your baby has NO idea what's going on. Relax and enjoy yourself!

parentsvsPIL Wed 08-Feb-17 03:25:26

I'm just impressed that (1) either of you has the energy and (2) that the baby didn't wake up.

GP prescribed the pill for me 7 weeks ago with lots of song & dance about breastfeeding not being a contraceptive... boxes are still unpoened on the shelf and I feel like telling her breastfeeding is a perfect contraceptive, albeit not via the mechanism she was thinking of grin

SpaceDinosaur Wed 08-Feb-17 03:34:21

Breastfeeding has added a whoooooole new dimension to our sex life this evening! DH got the 5week old down this evening (miracle! Usually she wants to BF and vomit for hours on end 🤔) and so, with whole more hours in bed before us I was very excited and instigated a celebratory DTD. Only i started "raining milk" down onto him at some point!... I had no idea. Lights were off, he felt it but it felt nice and he hadn't put 2&2 together and worked out what it was...

There was a wet silhouette of his whole torso on the bed 😂

Thank god for waterproof mattress protectors!!!

SpaceDinosaur Wed 08-Feb-17 03:41:53

Oh... baby slept through it!
She has woken up before but I'm pretty sure she was ok with it 😇

MaryMargaret Wed 08-Feb-17 06:52:00

Mine used to wake up, reliably, at exactly the wrong moment. Even in the next room confused

TheNaze73 Wed 08-Feb-17 07:42:37

Don't feel guilty. We always used to do that, when my eldest was young.

Emboo19 Wed 08-Feb-17 07:47:24

We have sex with baby in the same room, no other option unless we abstain for 6 months. We just try keep it quiet, more so not to wake her up!

I wouldn't with her in bed with us though.

CesareBorgiasUnicornMask Wed 08-Feb-17 08:44:49

It's fiiine. DH always felt a bit weird about it but we just made sure he couldn't see the baby :D. We stopped when he was about 1 though as he was more interested in everything and neither of us liked the idea of turning round to see a little quizzical face peering over the edge of the crib at us. He moved into his own room (at least occasionally) then anyway though.

InfinityPlusOne Wed 08-Feb-17 08:48:09

Baby hasn't a clue what's happening so I wouldn't be worried about that. What's more concerning is when they are old enough to come looking for you at night. Happened to us with DS 2.5 but luckily the lights were out and we heard him coming into the room....

ColdBrew Wed 08-Feb-17 14:06:31

thanks everyone. You've cleared my mind about it smile

livelyredjellybean Wed 08-Feb-17 14:23:28

Another here who doesn't mind 'Dtd' with a young baby in the room. Will change when she becomes more aware of her surroundings. My LO is quite good at waking up whilst we are getting started though; she apparently doesn't want any siblings!!!

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