Hello everybody,
I would be very grateful for your advice. I am 28, married for five years with four kids.
There are lots of things that are great about my husband and I am very happy to be with him.
Before we married my husband was discharged from his former job because of health corncern (short of hearing, struggles with crowds).
Before our first son was born my husband enjoyed playing rugby, but quit when he was born. He still works out when he has the time.
My husband is a person, who is conscious about his physical fitness so that being short of hearing is a big deal for him and he dislikes the fact he has put on weight but won't stop snacking. Instead he likes to complain about putting on weight which is annoying in a man.
Because my husband dislikes crowds we do not go out as much as we should.
He also works a lot and often has to be away on a job for several weeks in a row. When he is home the kids come first. We do not spend a lot of time together and he sometimes does isolate from me (for example by working out alone) or by drawing. He also isolates from my family members.
I am sometimes not sure if he likes me anymore. I do know there are some things about him that annoy me. For example:
*he feels sorry for himself because he is short of hearing and thinks everybody looks down on him because of this
*he believes he used to work in the best possible job with the most worthy colleagues (the one he lost because of his health) and that everything else sucks in comparison. I guess including our family
*he feels sorry for himself because he gained weight but does not see it is because he snacks all the time
And maybe it is not nice of me to tell him, maybe I should listen more patiently. I am not sure. How do you think?
I would so much like to have more mummy and daddy time or am I asking for too much?
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Husband seems to be unhappy with our marriage and is very negative
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Lavinia123 · 07/02/2017 15:31
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