Hello! I know this topic is opinion, but I'd love to hear thoughts on whether I'm being silly, or genuinely have reason to be questioning everything.
So iv been with my partner 3 1/2 years.. he has been stepdad to my 4 year old for 3 1/2 years, basically taken over the job of her dad and loves her like his own.
He was married after 6 months of being with his partner (he was in the army.. they wanted a house. Betrayal and affairs on both parts from the start)
She was a friend although I use the term loosely, so when I got with him I never pushed for them to divorce I just let it run its course. He always said after the 2 years he would divorce her and here we are almost 4 years from there split and it still hasn't happened!! You wouldn't believe the amount of things have gotten in the way, his debts finally paid off, finally bought a printer, finally bought ink cartridges and paper for the printer, papers got sent back because the cost of a divorce had gone up, he wanted to split the cost but she won't pay, he had the wrong papers. Oh my the list is endless with issues of getting to where we are now. BUT we are planning on getting a mortgage this summer and somethings eating away at me because I feel like I'm not moving forward - he knows I would love him to get divorced (iv thrown conversations and comments in in the last 4 years).
One minute he's promising me he will finally get it sorted, and the next he jokes he'll get it done when she does it. Iv told him I don't want a marriage proposal anytime soon but I just can't understand that if he loves me why would he not want to be divorced?!? He's not one for emotion but I know he loves me and my daughter. My friends tell me to get on at him but I'm not one to get on at someone I know will just push him more, so I need to know if I'm being irrational or I have all rights to feel this way. Any thoughts greatly appreciated!!!!
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My long term partner still isn't divorced
Hellohello16 · 07/02/2017 12:16
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