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We have been together 15 years married for 5. We have 3 dcs 11 4 and 1.
I've been so stressed lately trying to be a mum wife and student nurse. I am behind on everything coursework studying housework laundry. The house is a complete disaster. Small 2 bed flat with no room to swing a cat and no matter how much I tidy it just gets cluttered and cluttered. We have no money. I have been so unhappy lately. I want to move but we can't afford a mortgage. But i dont want to decorate this one because I hate it. But I also hate living in a shit hole.
DH just plods along. I thought he was quite happy with how things were he never seems bothered. He does the dishes every night. Tonight while doing them he was banging about I'm a right mood then said something like this house is going to give me a breakdown one day. I asked him what he meant by that then he started ranting oh so youre the only one with any emotions in this house youre the only one who is allowed to be upset. Then he stormed out and hasn't spoken to me since.
I know this sounds like a one off incident but it makes mw think that if he's so unhappy and I'm so unhappy we are going to end up apart. Every time I try to talk to him about things that make me unhappy he it ends in an argument him telling me I'm ungrateful for what we have (the dcs) and that I shouldn't live my life by other people's standards. Basically everything is fine and I have nothing to make me unhappy.
I would love to go to relationship councelling to see if that would get him listening to me. But we can't afford it and even if we could I don't think he'd go
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I think my marriage is falling apart
DauntlessDivergent · 05/02/2017 22:54
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