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How doare I stop this.

(4 Posts)
abundantlyclear Sun 05-Feb-17 16:58:29

I have dresms - almost every night - about my mum and step dad. I have had no contact with them for 5 years now, due to them being abusive throughout my childhood. Sometimes I dream every day things. Usually, it's me trying to contact them again. My brothers are often in my dreams too - I miss them genuinely. Sometimes in my dreams I tell my mum what my step dad did to me - she never believes me or cares.

It's almost every night. Whether im happy, stressed, tired - doesn't matter. Do I have the power to stop this? It's getting upsetting. I nearly always end up crying in the dream - wanting them to forgive me I some way.

HolgerDanske Sun 05-Feb-17 17:01:47

Bless you... it sounds like your subconscious is trying to work through the very difficult feelings associated with your experiences. Therapy would probably help.


Garnethair Sun 05-Feb-17 17:08:04

Do you sleep laying on your back? I have distressing dreams when I sleep on my back, but am fine when I sleep on my side.

abundantlyclear Sun 05-Feb-17 18:06:24

I sleep every way. I'm a very light sleeper and wake up exhausted. I always wake even if I hear my own children turning in bed, getting up to the loo etc. I think I slept deeper I'd go through REM sleep maybe and have less dreams?
I booked in for counselling once, then cancelled. I just don't know what to say. Im 34 now and it was all such a long time ago.
Thank you for your replies.

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