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Nightout costing £250

(40 Posts)
redandwhite1 Sun 05-Feb-17 00:59:46

Why do men think this is ok? We are struggling at the moment and he's gone out and spanked £250


DontstepontheMomeRaths Sun 05-Feb-17 01:07:18

That's not ok 😦

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 01:09:30

On what?? Can only assume gambling or stripers. Not OK

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 01:10:06

And I dont think "men" do so much as your DP does

redandwhite1 Sun 05-Feb-17 01:11:22

All in a bar

We have a joint account so can see it, it's all from the same bar (and not a strip club)

I'm fuming. He's on his way so I'm going to pretend to be asleep as don't want to talk to him

TyneTeas Sun 05-Feb-17 01:15:45

Is there any chance it was a group tab that everyone else has given him cash for and he's paid it all on the card....

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Sun 05-Feb-17 01:18:14

Nar, it'll all be him. That's what these blokes do.

Im sorry he's such a shit

redandwhite1 Sun 05-Feb-17 01:23:08

He likes to be popular so probably just bought people drinks

He's taken cash out for the cab home so don't think there was tabs


ExplodedCloud Sun 05-Feb-17 01:26:25

Hopefully he's got the tab and has £200 in his pocket. If not he's a twat. And needs to explain.
Which bank can you see stuff that quickly though? My banking is slow by comparison!

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 01:42:48

Yeah my online banking wouldnt clear the payments that quick - is it def from tonight?

redandwhite1 Sun 05-Feb-17 01:43:54

It's all pending, Lloyds have it

He's asleep on the stairs so leaving him there smile

ShoutOutToMyEx Sun 05-Feb-17 01:46:23

DP did this once. I was livid.

Note the once

PyongyangKipperbang Sun 05-Feb-17 01:48:20

Thats LTB territory for me I am afraid.

What is £250 to you? Say in terms of food budgets. Ask him tomorrow where you are supposed to find the next 3 weeks (or whatever) shopping money from given that he fucked it on booze.

shinynewusername Sun 05-Feb-17 01:50:27

Can only assume gambling or stripers

Not excusing him but that's nonsense. Cocktails are £10-15 a go in most city bars. A few rounds could easily see off £250.

PyongyangKipperbang Sun 05-Feb-17 01:56:01

I have seen the "D"P of a friend of mine get through that amount of money by buying rounds for him and his "friends" with chasers. I use "" because its amazing how few friends he has when he isnt buying all the beers.

My friend had to borrow money to feed their kids as a result of that night out and its a regular thing. Sadly she doesnt seem to be planning to dump him any time soon.

LouisevilleLlama Sun 05-Feb-17 01:57:32

Yeah I went to a club once as a student in london and it was £11 a drink didn't know at the time that was not £90 well spent but I imagine my face was shock

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 02:07:18

Not excusing him but that's nonsense. Cocktails are £10-15 a go in most city bars. A few rounds could easily see off £250.

Its not nonsense it's my experience. Even at £15 that's 16 odd cocktails. I can drink but that would be pushing of slightly!! Even if you mix in chasers etc.

If DP said he'd spent that I'd ask whoa bloody g string it went down and I know what he thinks of strip clubs!

Obviously OP has insider info as she knows where etc so I'm clearly not saying it's impossible

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 02:08:09

Louise and presumably you didn't do that three times

LouisevilleLlama Sun 05-Feb-17 02:11:03

No but there were 4 of us and as it was packed we got 2 drinks each, we have no idea how many people he is out with or the circumstances

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 02:13:41

Honestly I'm sure when his head settles hellt try and find some valid excuse and I'm certainly not suggesting ltb or saying it was anything dodgy althp gambling and steippers was initially my only valid excuse (cos if a round costs £90 you don't get another!) But I also think OP is justified in wanting his guts for gartees

MrsBlennerhassett Sun 05-Feb-17 02:13:48

Is this in London? Youd never be able to spend 250 on yourself alone in one bar round here, youd end up in hospital with alcohol poisoning!
However ive seen cocktails at £20 + a go, in london.
I suppose he could have bought a couple of extremely expensive bottles of champagne?
If hes not been in a central london cocktail bar he must have been buying other people drinks quite a lot!
Cant believe someone would spend that much alone when they knew they didnt have very much money.
It is LTB territory!
Lets hope he used his card to buy rounds and everyone gave him the cash.....

MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 02:13:50


MommaGee Sun 05-Feb-17 02:15:23

Also if friend came back and said bloody hell those drinks were a tenner each and I got us all two, unless we'd all queued and spne the same, I'd be offering her cash!

LouisevilleLlama Sun 05-Feb-17 02:23:24

I agree he definitely has stuff to answer for, and although shocked at the price I was happy to pay because before uni I had been mostly an outcast and I'd finally found a group, who in second year sorted it out for me as a surprise, train there, hotel room, pre drinks, entry it was my thank you for them going through the trouble

InTheMoodForLove Sun 05-Feb-17 02:38:35

it could be drugs?
why MN only think money goes to sex?
OP how can you see the charges already? (I may be think here, sorry, but I never had a joined account maybe you get phone alerts overtime the card is used?)

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