My friend is having issues - her bf is aggressive, gaslights, calls names, bullys and is lying about all kinds.
At first she thought he was a handful she could cope with. She is a 'live and let live' character but when she was younger was feisty and so I guess seen in him a bit of what she had been in her teens-20s - he was assertive and dominant at that point.
Now things have escalated, or rather the wool has been removed from her eyes somehow (finally).
Does anyone have any suggestions how to best deal with this. ATM she's acting like everything is fine as he's so volatile she's afraid if she gives him a chance he will make her suffer (even more than normal!) for wanting out of the relationship. If they argue she asks him to go, he storms off to pack but then cries saying how much he loves her.
Sitting down and talking is not an option. She feels the only way is to flee. The rental house is in her name and doesn't know what to do about that side of it - but he will not leave and she's too scared to involve the police because he hasn't done anything as such.
I'm desperately scared for her. I hope to God this post doesn't somehow out her! But I don't have a clue what to suggest. Help.
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LosingTheMarbles · 04/02/2017 21:20
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