Our daughter is 12 and son is 10. I'm still very much happily married to my wife. Our kids are amazing.
I know it's very common for daughters to have a close bond with their mums and that's great but it's really hard to watch my son really trying and I don't want to outright say to him something like "don't worry about mum responding like that" because then it just confirms it doesn't it? I am trying to speak to her about it, but am not really getting anywhere and wondered how you would like to be approached?
It's really simple things but you can just tell it knocks him down. She always invites our daughter to do things with her like going to town or even simple things like baking and our son's interests aren't really seen as important as our daughter's, etc. he has really began to make an effort (after my son and I had a chat) he was close to tears I think and asked me if mum even liked him, it was really sad and I explained that of course she does and asked why and he spoke to me about it and I told him to just ask mum and I'm sure she would be ecstatic that you want to do the things your sister does with her and so when daughter didn't want to go to town, etc. he said he would like to go and she would always find an excuse even if it was something as silly as "you don't need any clothes", etc. when our daughter has lots more clothes than our son!
I have tried speaking to her about how it's really obvious and hurting his feelings for her to tell me "well you take him out" which of course I do, I always end up taking him somewhere but he wants to spend time with his mum and I don't want to confirm that he is actually right and his mum isn't bothered.
Any advice on how you would like to be approached? Thank you
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Wife doesn't treat our son the same as our daughter?
MrMGG · 04/02/2017 02:37
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