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Ive made a mistake

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Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:31:28

Years ago i had an affair with a married man. He recently got in touch again to meet but i decided against it. Today he turned up at my workplace and we ended up going home after work and had sex. He left about 8pm. Ive made a mistake

HandbagCrazy Fri 03-Feb-17 21:33:22

Is he still married? Are you single?

It doesn't sound like a great situation that you've put yourself in but without more detail it's hard to comment.

Have you kept in touch since your affair at all?

MixedGrill Fri 03-Feb-17 21:33:58

Are you married too?

You made a mistake. Take note, don't do it again.

ImperialBlether Fri 03-Feb-17 21:34:10

Why on earth did you do that?

FlyWaxSleepRepeat Fri 03-Feb-17 21:35:16

Did you post about him recently, about meeting up?

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:35:43

Hes not married anymore. Im in a new relationship. I dont know why i did it. Im seeing my bf tomorrow and i need to act normal

ImperialBlether Fri 03-Feb-17 21:36:55

But in the thread you had the other day you said he was divorced now.

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:37:33

Yes he is divorced

PaterPower Fri 03-Feb-17 21:37:48

You need to act normal? Or do you really need to be honest with him?

I hope you were at least using a condom together otherwise you could be exposing your BF to an STI.

Ellisandra Fri 03-Feb-17 21:39:02

You need to act normal?
No you don't, you need to gently break it off with your boyfriend, because you're clearly not that into him.

Then you and this guy are both single, and you can get together - simple.

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:39:17

Its a very new relationship i just need to forget about it

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:40:05

I want to be with my bf not my ex

Ellisandra Fri 03-Feb-17 21:55:07

New enough that you haven't discussed exclusivity?

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 21:57:01

Yes Ellis we havent discussed it but i really like him and want it to go somewhere

user1478860582 Fri 03-Feb-17 22:00:22

BF? That's new. Only a few weeks ago you were single and wondering whether to meet up with this man for lunch.

You really need to grow up OP.

AnyFucker Fri 03-Feb-17 22:02:12

This sounds like another of these stupid drama llama bollocks


Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 22:06:36

Im not very proud of what ive done.

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 22:07:27

I am seeing someone user maybe i shouldnt call him bf yet but its heading that way

user1478860582 Fri 03-Feb-17 22:13:30

In your last thread you made a play of how much you've grown up and changed. You obviously haven't.

Rather than try to act normal, do your boyfriend a favour and end the relationship with him before he gets hurt.

Costacoffeeplease Fri 03-Feb-17 22:16:07

Is this the boyfriend you first went out with about a week ago?

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 22:17:21

Ive been seeing him for two weeks

Finola1step Fri 03-Feb-17 22:19:48

Is this the same married man you posted about a couple of weeks ago?

Bigfluffybear Fri 03-Feb-17 22:21:03

Yes ive admitted im stupid

oleoleoleole Fri 03-Feb-17 22:22:30

Yes you have. What do you hope to gain by posting on here?

Mrsknackered Fri 03-Feb-17 22:22:44

2 weeks? Good grief. Took my DP a good 7 months to utter the girlfriend word!

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