Okay.. so... I have a friend who has 'separated' from her dp following being pinned up against a wall by him 2yrs ago. They still sleep in the 'marital' bed though. Am gonna be a bit vague here but there are massive financial issues (brought on by him) so she feels trapped and not able to leave . They have 3 dc. There have been a couple of police call outs. He has pinned her to the floor and other stuff. I can't believe she is in the same house let alone bed. She feels she has no options. I was told by this friend of an incident where the dp violent towards the eldest dc (1 x incident physical and verbal but no physical injury to dc). Friend is very much in the fog and not ready to leave. I told her she needs to leave and start thinking about refuge and what her priorities are. That she needs to protect the dc. But she can't see it and is fighting to stay in house (at risk of being re-possessed). She seems distracted by this. Currently they seem in the 'nice' part of the cycle but for how long. And what next. With the financial pressure...
I need to report to SS. I know that. How do I approach it? Sadly I have thought this through and think I am prepared to lose this friendship as a result. I am too worried about the dc. I'm not sure SS will do much though. It is so sad. But I am so very uncomfortable about it all.
Am thinking I need to send my friend a message saying that I can't keep what I heard to myself and that I am going to inform the right people.
What would others do? Anyone else done similar?
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SaltySeaDog72 · 03/02/2017 19:07
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