I dated a man who was separated from his wife... allegedly. I ended it a year and a half into it when I said I wanted to marry him and therefore at some point he would need to finalise the divorce. The divorce he said was continually 'about to start.' When I demanded answers and said I wanted to speak to the ex wife, it got messy. He almost turned into a different person. I don't know to this day if he had lied to me all along as I cut him off the moment I felt he was lying to me.
Anyway, fast forward a year and I was happily single and enjoying dating. A month ago I saw this man in a restaurant with a woman (not his wife). They were holding hands over the table. He didn't see me and a week after I saw him food shopping with his wife. (We live nearby).
I have no feelings for this man at all and have absolutely no wish to embark on any relationship or friendship with him. But I cannot shake this feeling that his wife should know his lies. Even when we first met I knew she found him difficult as he would often show me texts (she'd be angry or upset etc), which added to the authenticity of him being separated, but obviously now I realise they may well have been selected messages for my viewing. Either way the woman wasn't happy and he told me she used to tell him she was wasting her life with him because he wouldn't tell her what he wanted...
When I saw them together she looked so sad and whilst I don't hate this man, I feel awful that I know what he is doing to this woman again (probably again as I imagine he was doing it with me).
If I tell I don't want to say I was involved with him. Maybe that is weak. I would want to do it in a way that made he find out on her own.
I have no vested interest in what she would do but I can't stop thinking about it, how she is living a lie.
What would you do?!
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Would you tell?
Dineoutone · 01/02/2017 20:16
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